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#441369 - 07/19/13 02:48 PM Matt195 introduction
Matt195 Offline


Registered: 07/18/13
Posts: 8
Loc: Arizona
Hi All,

I am 49 years old CSA [/b]survivor[b]. I was molested by my grandfather when I was about 3 years old. I have a memory like Swiss cheese (full of holes) but do know who my abuser was but do not know how much, how long, or any other details.

I have a wonderful wife who is traveling this journey to healing and wholeness with me. In my low times she is my shield maiden. In life she is my partner.

My journey has many elements to it and I am amazed how it all works together.

Thanks for allowing me the privilege of being part of this group.

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#441374 - 07/19/13 03:18 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3362
Loc: O Kanada
wow.
that is terrible to hear what happened to you.
congratulations on taking this step toward better health.
looking forward to learning more about you.
slowly, things get better.
this has been my experience.
self awareness, honesty, and emotional support are key ingredients.
you sound as if you are more than ready for recovery.

welcome, Matt195.
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Victor|Victim

War
Love
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#441389 - 07/19/13 04:49 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
mattheal Offline
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Registered: 06/10/12
Posts: 142
Loc: Ohio
Welcome Matt195.

I'm sorry about your past, but I am glad you found this community. I hope you find it a source of strength as I have. This is a safe place of healing.

I wish you the best. Welcome.
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It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"

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#441391 - 07/19/13 04:58 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
Matt195 Offline


Registered: 07/18/13
Posts: 8
Loc: Arizona
Thanks guys!

I have been on this journey of healing for about 6 years now. The realization of who victimized me was about 5 years ago. I have been able to move forward in this journey through my faith and with counseling.

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#441404 - 07/19/13 07:10 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
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#441405 - 07/19/13 07:12 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
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Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 05:38 PM)

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#470723 - 10/03/14 12:03 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
Matt195 Offline


Registered: 07/18/13
Posts: 8
Loc: Arizona
Was re-reading my intro and a lot has happened since then.

The biggest change is I lost my beautiful wife very suddenly and unexpectedly. I am now a single father of a pre-teen son. He's wonderful and loving and dealing with a lot due to the loss of his mom.

I have also been working on healing from the abuse by processing it in a safe and healthy environment. I found out that there was abuse and it was traumatic but was not as much as I might think but still enough to cause pain and confusion, etc. Also in the process I discovered I told my father of the abuse and he did not believe me nor protected me so trust with males was majorly broken. I am now working on trust issues with men.

God has been ever faithful to both of us as we have journeyed through all of this.

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#470737 - 10/03/14 05:10 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3450
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Welcome back, Matt!

i am sorry to hear of your loss of your wife.
and also of your father's failure to believe and protect you.
glad you have your son and hope and pray that the two of you can be a wonderful support to one another.
it is so good that you have continued with your journey of healing on your own - but also great to have you back with us.
if there is anything we can do to help, just ask.
i think most of us have had major trust issues to deal with - so you are not alone there.

Lee
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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#470748 - 10/03/14 09:53 PM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
kcinohio Offline
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Registered: 06/06/12
Posts: 338
Loc: Ohio
Sorry for your loss of your wife. Hope you and your son find solace.

Hope you are able to gain the trust in other men you are seeking at least partially through MS here. Best wishes.

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#470762 - 10/04/14 07:53 AM Re: Matt195 introduction [Re: Matt195]
Bardo Offline


Registered: 09/24/14
Posts: 39
Matt,
I am so sorry for the loss of your lovely wife. We all go through life thinking it cannot happen to us, and when it does it turns our worlds upside down. I know that you and your son will carry on, taking care of each other, and that you will be able to continue your healing process. I'm also sure that she sees you and smiles as you do.

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