Lbm, one skill I've personally developed is realizing that my own perceptions of myself aren't reliable, that even if I feel! worthless, feel that being worthless is such a basic physical description of myself I could addd it to who and what I am, ---- five foot 9, dark hair, worthless, that is just not something I can have an opinion on since my opinion is utterly unreliable.
It's just like any other subject. There are some thigns I know about through my experience, and some I do not. I'd always give more weight to say the opinion of a solicitor about the law because they know more than me about it, they have not only studdied more, but also developed intuitions, instincts and an understanding of the rules of that particular game.
In the game of self worth, I am just not experienced, thus I do not let my own opinions influence me. if for instance someone thinks I am the right person for a given job or have a tallent that would help them, I'll believe that they know what they're talking about better than me, ---- perhaps those women who cared about your story knew better than you?