Ended up that nearly all of my friendships were sexualized. We were all straight-identified. I have no regrets nor shame whatsoever about the more benign things that went on when the initial ringleader was out of the picture. I enjoyed those and they satisfactorily meet my understanding of experimentation / horseplay.
This is why I asked the question. I feel like those who experienced more aggressive or forced abuse may have difficulty appreciating that "friendly" early sexualization is also damaging and disorienting. I initiated my same age cousin into sexual activity at about age 8. He was 'game' for it, but today I feel great remorse about it. He is still unmarried and can't keep a relationship down.
I feel at times sexual abuse is like a virus that has its own agenda and doesn't care who the carrier is. And the carriers intentions are in effect, irrelevant.
Whether he wished to hurt or help ... the damage is the same.
ON the subject of POWER, I think its safe to say that the person who is SEXUALLY AWARE is always in a position of power over the person who is NOT.
In certain circumstances I find myself STILL wanting to initiate the uninitiated. "first timers" gay porn resonates strongly. The virus is still alive in me...regardless of how I caught it.