Originally posted by Lloydy:
"Exert your mind and reject the immoral thought. The arousal will soon die down."
It's good that you care enough to try to do better.
That advice didn't work for me, at least not directly.
I was advised to pray about it when the urge was strongest. It makes sense, doesn't it? But, the harder I prayed and tried to stop, the worse it was getting. What was that about?
It took me a while to figure out a trend.
In my case compulsion was at the source of repetition. So 'EXERTING my mind' was the wrong thing to do. Praying (exerting my mind) and thus JUST CONSIDERING the subject put the issue too clearly into lingering focus, and thus made it more likely to occur for me.
I found some help in finding something else to think about immediately--go do something else RIGHT NOW, just switch channels.
I pray about it at times now--but very short mention, and NOT when the tempatation is there. It sounds all backwards, and I'm not discounting God's help. I just have to do what works for me. The new way doesn't always work, but the difference in frequency, before and after the change in methods, is definitely there.
The other saying that is good from AA is that "Relapse is part of recovery". I figure that in the case of sexual abuse, your relapse symptoms have got to be sexual.
Eventually it sneaks up on me again, but the new way has helped somewhat. Again, it's good that you care enough to try to do better.