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#439905 - 07/03/13 11:46 AM Re: movies: TRIGGER WARNING [Re: victor-victim]
Suwanee Offline

Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 706
Loc: Southeast USA
It may have already been mentioned, but "Kids" (1995) was very, very disturbing to me. Uncontrolled children, violence, underage sex, HIV.

I saw it in the theater with a couple of friends when it came out. The film made me physically ill. I walked out to the lobby for a few minutes during one scene, but went back and managed to finish it, but put me in a funk that lasted a week.

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#439914 - 07/03/13 01:57 PM Re: movies: TRIGGER WARNING [Re: victor-victim]
DavoSwim Offline

Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 327
Loc: Iowa, USA
I saw "Kids" on HBO or Cinemax, and I couldn't take it. I had to switch the channel. What really bothers me is that when the movie was released, critics raved about it. It was described as being "real" and that if you didn't like it or if you objected to it, you somehow didn't get it. The enlightened people understood the film and were therefore superior to the rest of us.

All it did was exploit the actors in the film, but more so, it insulted and damaged real CSA survivors.


#440065 - 07/04/13 04:33 PM Re: movies: TRIGGER WARNING [Re: DavoSwim]
Suwanee Offline

Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 706
Loc: Southeast USA

I see you feel the same way. The friends who watched it with me thought it was a tough film, but couldn't understand why it messed me up the way it did. Messed me up it did. I couldn't get it out of my head. I really was in a dark place for days afterward. Exploitative is right---the actors and THIS member of the audience for sure.

No redeeming value.

Just thinking about it gives me a terrible feeling. Even if I hear anything from the soundtrack, I get uneasy.
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#457700 - 12/31/13 04:38 PM Re: movies: TRIGGER WARNING [Re: Suwanee]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6857
Loc: USA
Since my post in this thread, I watched Clockwork Orange.

It is pretty provocative. The idea is that the "girls" are mind-controlled sex slaves.

But since watching it I find that some people say that it actually goes on in real life. Orange is supposed to by a symbolic color of Illuminati sex control or something like that. But I hate to give up the color orange to the enemy, since I happen to like orange.

#457705 - 12/31/13 05:12 PM Re: movies: TRIGGER WARNING [Re: pufferfish]
unhappycamper Offline

Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 598
Loc: VA
I watched the movie "Clockwork Orange" not long ago, and it seemed weirdly dated and unrealistic. Why? It's set amongst the teens of the "near future" (as imagined in the 1960's), and... there were NO SCREENS ANYWHERE! No social media, smartphones, computers... none of the tech toys that have engulfed our society.

A much better Malcolm McDowell fantasy movie is "O Lucky Man," the surreal adventures of an English coffee salesman. Honest.


#468095 - 07/27/14 11:49 PM the CHANGELING [Re: victor-victim]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3333
Loc: O Kanada
Here is another one to add to the list.
This movies created a very intense, unpleasant and deep reaction in me.
The titles gave me no warning, and I was lured in by the big names.
I thought I was going to see a remake of The Changeling from 1980 with George C. Scott.
I had no idea what it was really about until it was in my face.

Can't say if it was good for me or not, but it was very uncomfortable, so...
I strongly advise sensitive SA Survivors to avoid these films if you are NOT secure in your recovery.
The Changeling(2008)
Director: Clint Eastwood
Writer: J. Michael Straczynski
Stars: Angelina Jolie, John Malkovich

This movie was technically excellent,
but the story had too many elements that were similar to my own.
It is based on a true story known as the "Wineville Chicken Coop Murders".
That pretty much tells you all you need to know.
If that had been the title, I would not have watched the film.

The case of serial killer Gordon Stewart Northcott is so surpassingly bizarre, so full of incredible twists, that even a full-length feature film from one of Hollywood's premiere directors couldn't properly do it justice.

It is, in fact, one of the strangest cases in the history of American justice. Yet this nearly-forgotten story of abuse of power, family dysfunction, and deception remains deeply relevant today, in a time when unlawful detainment, official malfeasance, and extralegal measures like "extraordinary rendition" are common.

By the time the events of the "Wineville chicken coop murders" reached their tragic conclusion, a police force had been disgraced, a town had decided to change its name, and at least five people were dead.

trigger warning - read at your own risk


#469565 - 09/01/14 05:05 AM Re: movies [Re: victor-victim]
lostc Offline

Registered: 08/12/14
Posts: 21
I haven't watched it yet but I am going to, The Unsaid (2001) *Spoilers!* has parts about a boy having been sexually abused by a male family friend and another boy being sexually abused by his mother. There is also depression/suicide. I would say it could well be triggering for others. Looks interesting to me.

Also Last Ride (2009) is all about a father on the run with his son who he emotionally/physically abuses. Again haven't watched it but is probably very triggering too.

Also, for those who don't know, on you can find almost all movies - Most of the time if you click on Parent's Guide within a movie's own page, you will see the details of any sexual or abusive scenes which could be triggering to watch.

Edited by lostc (09/01/14 05:42 AM)

#469566 - 09/01/14 05:35 AM Re: movies [Re: victor-victim]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3379
Loc: somewhere in Africa
I just watched “Good Will Hunting” for the first time last night. I was unprepared for the not too unpredictable “surprise” that the title character had been abused as a boy. Though the script refers to verbal and physical abuse and does not mention sexual abuse, it was not difficult to imagine that happening too, especially from my experience, where all three kinds were intermingled inseparably.

I was impressed by the sensitivity of the performances and the perception of the script-writing, especially that is was written by two such young men - Damon & Affleck. Not only was it an amazing debut for the quality of the characterizations and plot and dialog, but the research required to make the situations and basic premises believable were admirable. For me, what was most remarkable was the depth of understanding of the psychological issues that were involved in the main characters’ lives. It made me wonder if there might not be some personal experience on either the first-hand or by direct observation.

However, I was very disappointed in the ending. I know that the structure of a movie plot requires that the climax be followed immediately by a quick dénouement and an emotionally satisfying ending. But from personal experience, I can testify that it takes more than a quick acknowledgement that abuse took place, repetition of “It was not your fault” 10 times in quick succession, a good cry, a hearty hug and a pat on the back to “recover” from years of ingrained self-destructive emotional and mental habits. Suddenly, the guy has health and self-esteem. He lands a prestigious job, gets a car, finds his independence, and takes off into the sunset (or sunrise?) to win the girl. For those who have not gone through therapy for abuse, this may be a great happy ending. For the rest of us it rings false and was a big disappointment. If only it were that easy!

As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago

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