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#439795 - 07/02/13 12:48 PM ?ing fatherhood
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Registered: 08/26/08
Posts: 853
Loc: Kc,Mo
Biggest Fear is Failure as a Father
With no Examples to Follow nothing but Shadows
Of men around me Trying to Figure this thing out so Cloudy
Watching my children Slip away into the abyss of Bad Decisions
Sitting here Reminiscing is there Something I am missing
Doing my due diligence never frivolous with my thinking
Seeking out Wise Counsel for the Lack of my own Understanding
These choices can be damming to these souls
I am holding in the palm of my hands
This feet I am Attempting is Daunting & Demanding
Not knowing can be treacherous on my mind
Am I doing Everything in Divine order holding it together
The best I know how
Am I failing or flourishing at this thing called Fathering
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-uYCAfpxrY
TRIGGER WARNING
Video of me telling my story
you are not alone never were
WRITTEN FORM
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=339159#Post339159
Why i hate Religion but love Jesus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY

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#440304 - 07/07/13 05:14 PM Re: ?ing fatherhood [Re: nltsaved]
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Registered: 09/02/11
Posts: 133
Loc: California
I like your poem, nltsaved, thanks for posting it.
Quote:
Not knowing can be treacherous on my mind


Although I'm not a father, I also have no male figure to follow, and I ask myself this question often. You give words to the feeling nicely.

Quote:
Am I doing Everything in Divine order holding it together
The best I know how?

I bet you are.
Quote:
Am I failing or flourishing at this thing called Fathering


That you ask such a question, that you work to write this poem, makes me certain that you - and your kids - are flourishing. My dad and I guess (it sounds like) your dad never worried about this. I think children pick up on the unspoken caring that produced this post from you.

GT
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I won the moment he hurt me, because he poisoned his soul, and I did not poison mine. I did not hurt anyone. He did. He was the perp. He tried to make me into a victim, but I became a survivor. Yes.

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#440374 - 07/08/13 12:31 PM Re: ?ing fatherhood [Re: GT13568]
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Registered: 08/26/08
Posts: 853
Loc: Kc,Mo
Thank you for the encouragement I wrote this while questioning if i am doing everything i can to be a good father . My son just moved out unexpectedly making a horrible decision. Instead of moving out with a HS diploma,car,health insurance,around 10,000 in the bank and a great head start in life . He is moving out with out completing HS yet he will not in my opinion finish with out someone pushing him that's just the way it has always been.
I have to constantly go to the school to make sure things are in place for him to succeed even if by the skin of his teeth so to speak.

so no HS diploma,no health insurance, only the 3,000 he has in his bank and no car which I was going to help him get when he graduates.

All over a girl that is 15 no doubt. Her parents are letting him move in so you can only guess what is going to happen before long hmmmm I wonder .

But after praying and seeking counsel I have realized I have done EVERYTHING in my power to make sure he had all the information to succeed . At the end of the day we all have a choice and he is choosing his course . So thanks for the response it is really appreciated.

Just had a down moment and thought i would share
_________________________
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-uYCAfpxrY
TRIGGER WARNING
Video of me telling my story
you are not alone never were
WRITTEN FORM
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=339159#Post339159
Why i hate Religion but love Jesus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY

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