I am in the closet and I probably won't come out of that closet. To do so would ruin my kids families. So you see I cannot come out, I am stuck in a world that I don't believe in but I have normal (non fanatical) straight kids except for one that's gay. So I am still in the closet not because of the size of my balls but because I don't think you know how cruel religions can be if you don't adhere to the official lifestyle. So I will probably go to my grave with that.
Peace, Rainbows, Love & Healing
I read this and my heart sinks
Jeff , no one can know your experience or reality but you.
You have normal kids, so you can't possibly know how their reaction would be about their gay dad. I thought I would be shunned and rejected, but dispute some minor things there has been overwhelming acceptance, cuz I finally accepted myself. When i became good with it so did others , especially my kids. We have no powers to see the future. We color it with insecurity and fear. All the what ifs .
- your kids just love you
- your wife finally understands you
- your intolerant church sees that you are still the same person, so you will find out if they are either "finger waggers or true speakers " , if the former, you will have to ask yourself if you and your family belong there.
- you could counter cruelty with kindness and compassion.
What if all the fears and scenarios play out so differently. How great would you feel if you could be loved and accepted for who you are. What courage would that show your children. What courage.
We all come to it in our own time. Three years ago I would have said I cannot either. Sadly it took near disaster to break free. Now from this side I see I was in mind shackled manacles of my own making.
My heart is with you. Living two lives is so painful. Not carrying that weight anymore has been unbelieveable.
What if you could breath?