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#438664 - 06/19/13 05:00 PM !
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#438665 - 06/19/13 05:05 PM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
Poorsoft Offline


Registered: 02/20/13
Posts: 163
No one else understands.

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#438667 - 06/19/13 05:10 PM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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How about for start friends and buddies as one reason for coming back?
Second could be good and interesting topics...
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#438668 - 06/19/13 05:13 PM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 04:39 PM)

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#438669 - 06/19/13 05:16 PM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Bryan.
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#438670 - 06/19/13 05:17 PM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 04:39 PM)

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#438684 - 06/19/13 08:07 PM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Registered: 10/14/11
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Loc: California
I think what I get most is encouragement from people who are going through it themselves. It doesn't feel like someone blowing smoke, but feels real and honest to me and in line with my life and my experiences.

Also, another important thing is just hearing about how CSA can take so many forms and have so many effects. I've always thought that in comparing the CSA and effects, comparing the similarities and differences with what I have experienced versus what others experienced, I get closer to finding out who I really am under all the other mess.

Todd
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"Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds."
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#438697 - 06/20/13 12:03 AM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1483
Loc: New England
The simple fact that I'm not alone. That I'm not the only one thats thought......done........felt,_________ (fill in the blank). That in fact, the twisted, pointless, addicted, destructive way I've lived my life is really kind of "normal" for survivor's of boyhood sexual abuse.

AND the fact that others here have pointed the way for me to start to overcome these demons, and given me an opportunity to pass that on. There might as well be some good that comes from this train-wreck called my life.

Jude
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"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "
Joni Mitchell

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#438701 - 06/20/13 12:31 AM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Jude]
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Registered: 05/30/13
Posts: 39
Loc: South Carolina, USA
Originally Posted By: Jude
The simple fact that I'm not alone. That I'm not the only one thats thought......done........felt,_________ (fill in the blank). That in fact, the twisted, pointless, addicted, destructive way I've lived my life is really kind of "normal" for survivor's of boyhood sexual abuse.

AND the fact that others here have pointed the way for me to start to overcome these demons, and given me an opportunity to pass that on. There might as well be some good that comes from this train-wreck called my life.


Jude, you took the words right out of my mouth.

Before MS, I felt alone. Not just alone with what happened to me as a child and the life I've had because of it, but also just alone with nobody I could trust enough to even have a simple conversation with.

And posting in the forums, although it stresses me out every time I click "submit" I am comforted by the kind and understanding replies I get and knowing that someone out there will identify and hopefully get something out of what I post.
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-Nothing haunts us like the things we don't say-

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#438708 - 06/20/13 06:48 AM Re: Give Me One Reason [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
Chase Eric Offline
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Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 1284
Hey, Gary -

I have come to understand that in dealing with ANY issues like this, one needs three pillars of support - loved ones (friends or family our both), professional guidance, and the company of kindred spirits. MS for me provides the latter. If I need unconditional love, I go to my friends and family. If I want answers, I go to professional guidance or introspection. If I want affirmation, I come here. It's all about sharing here, nothing more, nothing less. I've been here about 18 months and have made HuGe progress based on all three pillars.

Male Survivor has been a mirror for me - I see so many at MS in whom I recognize myself. Walking in size 8 Keds with adult-sized secrets in your head can be the loneliest place in the world. Here, I am not alone.
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