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#438050 - 06/13/13 12:32 PM Becoming a Good Man
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#438055 - 06/13/13 01:31 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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Good post, Husky.

In my opinion, a good "strong" man is an individual who stands up for his and other people's convictions. Being true to oneself and accepting his strengths and flaws make a man an even greater individual.

I have known very stereotypical "manly" acting men who are by far the most infantile and irresponsible people I have ever met. There lack of character basically drains their masculinity. So it's not how one acts or appears to others, rather it's how one behaves and carries himself that leads them to being great men.

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#438064 - 06/13/13 01:58 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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#438067 - 06/13/13 02:09 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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I agree with all of those besides possibly one, I know you said "somewhat stoic" and I think to a certain extent that could be true for some small things, but I'm not sure that applies for everything, as an example, something like the reason we're all here. It takes a man that is courageous and willing to take risks (such as feeling vulnerable) just to even come to a site like this, I think trying to hide your feelings, your opinions, isn't something to look up to, tho it is necessary at times. Society in general does make it feel that way sometimes, but it's quite far from the truth, that's just my opinion anyways.

The only other one I can think of is honesty.

Good post husky


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#438069 - 06/13/13 02:20 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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#438071 - 06/13/13 02:25 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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A strong man, to me, is one who can maintain his level of direction and goal setting despite whatever feelings he or others around him might be having.

He uses reason/logic to understand and gather information, but ultimately, he is lead by trusting his own gut instinct.

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#438073 - 06/13/13 02:48 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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#438093 - 06/13/13 06:13 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: Magellan]
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#438096 - 06/13/13 06:35 PM ! [Re: concerned_husky]
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I spend a lot of time thinking about the conception of masculinity.

There is a journal on the topic that looks interesting.

It's expensive but there are some free sample articles.

I'll have to think a little about this, but I don't think there's a masculinity checklist. It might vary culturally and in so many other ways. But in my status as a gay male survivor, it's something I had to fight for. I think men in general have to prove their manhood in some way, but I also think this is especially so for gay men and male survivors. I don't think the abuse has to necessarily be sexual, either. It can be bullying on the playground or getting slapped around at home. But I think guys like us, a lot of us at least, feel we have something to prove. That's how I see it anyway.


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#438097 - 06/13/13 06:45 PM Re: Masculinity [Re: concerned_husky]
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