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#437755 - 06/11/13 04:11 AM My Mother Passed Away
derrick Offline
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Registered: 05/30/10
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Loc: North Carolina
She passed away peacefully at age 88. She was my abuser 55 years ago when I was 13. She joined AA when I was 15 and stayed sober ever since

I have found myself downplaying my mother's passing. With casual friends / business associates I simply say I had a family member die. Really want to avoid telling anyone that it was my mother

Lots of mixed feelings here - but have a good support group and T to talk about this with

thanks for being there
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#437777 - 06/11/13 11:10 AM Re: My Mother Passed Away [Re: derrick]
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sorry for the loss man, and for the confusion that comes with it glad you have support
rock on man!
jeff
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#437786 - 06/11/13 12:43 PM Re: My Mother Passed Away [Re: derrick]
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Keep separating the hurt and abuse from your innocence, your inner safety and your ability to competently support yourself. Keep up the recovery work!

Sam
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#437870 - 06/11/13 09:40 PM Re: My Mother Passed Away [Re: derrick]
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Hi Derrick. My condolences for your loss. Please keep sharing about this if you need to. I hope you are well tonight. Peace,

Ken

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#439384 - 06/27/13 05:47 PM . [Re: derrick]
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#445613 - 08/27/13 05:38 PM Re: My Mother Passed Away [Re: derrick]
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I think you made the correct decision...to "downplay" her death.

The death of my mother was the happiest day I had ever experienced.

Step by Step.........

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