I am a struggling survivor who at times still feels like a "victim".
Overcoming that "victim" identity is a good first goal. Most of us have been there. Ther boy you were was the victim. The man you are now is a SURVIVOR!
Despite the damage done to you, you have made it to this point of having the courage to deal with it all. Well done! Now go for it.
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell