I am a struggling survivor who at times still feels like a "victim".
Overcoming that "victim" identity is a good first goal. Most of us have been there. Ther boy you were was the victim. The man you are now is a SURVIVOR!
Despite the damage done to you, you have made it to this point of having the courage to deal with it all. Well done! Now go for it.
"Carry on my wayward son
There'll be peace when you are done
Lay your weary head to rest
Don't you cry no more"Kansas