Newest Members
MG5555, ShinTensei, jaklumen, Bennett, 0128
12506 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
Moriji (44), Nicos (48), weharry1959 (55)
Who's Online
2 registered (Bennett, traveler), 18 Guests and 4 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
12506 Members
74 Forums
64203 Topics
448039 Posts

Max Online: 418 @ 07/02/12 07:29 AM
Twitter
Page 1 of 3 1 2 3 >
Topic Options
#435101 - 05/19/13 12:29 AM Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor.
forgive777 Offline


Registered: 05/18/13
Posts: 119
Loc: california
Hi! To start with iam just starting this male survivor thing! I am 29yrs old I was sexually abused! When I was about 9YrS. Old by a neighbor. About two years ago I was having recurring anxiety and panic attcks! I couldn't understand why? So long story short! I didn't understand why was this ahppening and then about 7 months ago I started realing that! This visuals of me being abused just kept popping up I still didn't understand! So I started to seek therapy. The therapist took a ton of weight from my back teling me that I was having this things becouse I was blaming my self for a lot of what happen to me when I was a lil boy! And open up to the abuse!!! So here iam. I started to feel better when I was talking about it. But now what do I do from here what is healing ?"and will this change my life becouse I have problems holding jobs sexual disfunction deppression anxiety anger etc. I want to be a better man I must admit.
_________________________
BertG777

Top
#435104 - 05/19/13 12:34 AM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3615
Loc: O Kanada
you have already taken a big step.
congratulations. welcome.
_________________________
Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

Top
#435105 - 05/19/13 12:38 AM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
forgive777 Offline


Registered: 05/18/13
Posts: 119
Loc: california
Thanks Victor I hope this helps me! For a better future like I said iam only about three months that I open up and a lot of things have changed. Hoping for big changes.
_________________________
BertG777

Top
#435106 - 05/19/13 12:38 AM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
Life's A Dream Offline


Registered: 08/25/11
Posts: 886
Loc: Bouvet Island
Same age as me, bro

Top
#435107 - 05/19/13 12:41 AM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
forgive777 Offline


Registered: 05/18/13
Posts: 119
Loc: california
It sucks lifes a dream. I somtimes wonder if the perv. Who tried too ruin my life is suffering like iam?
_________________________
BertG777

Top
#435111 - 05/19/13 01:04 AM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3615
Loc: O Kanada
have you been to these pages?

http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=423271&an=5#Post423271

http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=282443&an=1#Post282443

best place to start.

set your boundaries.
protect yourself at all times.
not just here but everywhere.
if you are just beginning to discover, disclose and recover, please be gentle and careful as you can.
call it damage control.
you have enough damage already.

scar tissue can be very sensitive as well as numb.
we all know what you are going through.
we are survivors.
just like you.

_________________________
Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

Top
#435148 - 05/19/13 03:56 PM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
Life's A Dream Offline


Registered: 08/25/11
Posts: 886
Loc: Bouvet Island
Originally Posted By: forgive777
It sucks lifes a dream. I somtimes wonder if the perv. Who tried too ruin my life is suffering like iam?


I don't know your whole story, but I'd say most likely not.

Top
#435164 - 05/19/13 07:28 PM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
Suwanee Offline
Greeter
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 759
Loc: Southeast USA
First of all, welcome.

I didn't face this stuff directly until I was in my 30s. I "dealt" with it from the time it happened at age 13...until I actually looked at it directly and began this phase of recovery. Take your time. Share as much or as little as you are comfortable with.

Healing is the continued work you do to function at a level above and beyond where you are now. What this means is that it is an continual process where you manage the condition like you would diabetes or hypertension. Eventually, the hope is you---and the rest of us are operating at a level above the point where you were when you decided "enough is enough." Expect ups and downs, quantum leaps, and plodding progress---sometimes within the same week or day. Watch for a while and jump in when you are ready.

Will
_________________________
Cruel Summer
My Journal

-Signs and traces left in stone
Ruins of a past unknown-

Top
#435195 - 05/19/13 10:22 PM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
forgive777 Offline


Registered: 05/18/13
Posts: 119
Loc: california
Thanks for the replies! Iam trying to heal now that iam single my ex girlfriend of five yrs. Left me with a. Shattering reminder! Of her voice her last words when she broke up with me where your gonna b gay in the future anyways!!!! That came from me opening my saddest darkest secret that I was sexually abused by another male!
_________________________
BertG777

Top
#435196 - 05/19/13 10:25 PM Re: Hi! iam a 29yr old survivor. [Re: forgive777]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3615
Loc: O Kanada
i decided long ago that i would rather be rejected for who i am, than accepted for what i am not.
_________________________
Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

Top
Page 1 of 3 1 2 3 >


Moderator:  ModTeam, TJ jeff 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.