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#434583 - 05/13/13 06:13 PM Hi All
Happythoughts Offline


Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
Hi, I just switch my name from Kann to happythoughts,, I just told my family and girl I know what what happen to me 40 years ago, pretty bad day, I did it thru email and I still don't know if I can look them in the face.. the weight of sham is on me.

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#434594 - 05/13/13 08:52 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
newground Offline
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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 749
Loc: michigan
Hey man GREAT JOB! I hope you allow yourself to feel the pride you deserve for finding that kind of courage. I'm sure you are feeling a lot of emotion right now man but it will get better. just know we are still in your corner. you are a great man what happened does not change that in any way. Just breathe and then keep on going man you are worth it
Jeff
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Towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee. let me then tow to pieces, while still chasing thee, thou damned whale! Thus, I give up the spear!"
Herman Melville

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#434603 - 05/13/13 09:41 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Happythoughts Offline


Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
At work I basicly tear up all day, and get home and still tearing up.. hope it gets better...

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#434604 - 05/13/13 09:44 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA
Happythoughts,

(((((Happythoughts))))

it took a lot of courage to make that post, and i am glad that you are here and that you will be able to find answers, friends, and good things for your own recovery.

good luck with the family thing.

peace

paul
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If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram

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#434606 - 05/13/13 09:46 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Happythoughts Offline


Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
You know I am 50 years old and feel like I am 8 years old right now.

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#434617 - 05/14/13 01:43 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
traveler Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3319
Loc: back in the USA
i know the feeling - sometimes i'm 6, sometimes 11, sometimes 13, sometimes 15 - all of those feelings frozen in time that could not be fully experienced at the time. i am looking forward to a reunion of all my younger selves some day.
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We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9

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#434639 - 05/14/13 11:08 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1478
Loc: New England
Originally Posted By: Happythoughts
You know I am 50 years old and feel like I am 8 years old right now.

Hey, thats okay man. It will all come together for you. It took balls to "come out" like you did. Whatever the reactions you get from girl or family, you will know you did what's right for YOU. YOUR healing, YOUR recovery, come first from now on.

Jude
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"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "
Joni Mitchell

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#434657 - 05/14/13 01:57 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3037
Loc: O Kanada
congratulations.
welcome to a place where you can express your self.
i pray you find comfort on these pages.

i, too, felt it was necessary to share my experience with my friends and family and learn to live with their various reactions.

just try to give them time and space to process your information. please be patient with them. it is hard, it hurts, but it helps. i hope my words make sense.
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#434678 - 05/14/13 05:51 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Happythoughts Offline


Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
Thanks guys, hope it gets better

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#434682 - 05/14/13 07:05 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
rc1965 Offline


Registered: 04/23/13
Posts: 12
Just wanted to say hello.

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