Man, I'm sorry to hear all this Geoff. At the same time, I get what it took to be blunt on here. Thank you.
Honestly, buddy, I don't have any advice. But perhaps some perspective since you brought up the mileage. You guys have just upended everything by moving to the fucking other side of the country and both have adjustment going on...including social circles, if any.
And, y'know, it's not unlike jettisoning the fucked up family dynamic...which you happen to be doing simultaneously
. It's a bunch of new, unknown, untested experiences that - especially at our
advanced age - can be unsettling. You've just stepped out of your comfort zone...actually, you've just taken a leap.
(That southern accent probably doesn't help in the NW either)