Mixed bag for me Geoff. I don't have the answer for the rage...except glass bottles thrown at brick walls in vacant parking lots. Yeppers, it worked.
Gay teen suicides, such as Tyler Clementi, or cases like Matthew Shepard's murder make me furious because some of the circumstances are similar to my growing years. And, even years later, I've just done what I've had to do to get myself clear of it, usually by communication cut-offs, emotional or geographic distance.
I feel fiercely protective of kids like that. Except IRL I'm not as physically imposing a figure as you...all I have is my acting ability in any situation. However, I'd gladly absorb an assault if it means a kid is protected. As a mature adult, unlike a kid, I DO have the life experience and resources to deal with that.
Concerned Husky started another thread
today on face-to-face responses to bullies, etc. I've found standing my ground with a firm, angry-sounding voice works, except my response is measured. Often in single words such as "no" or "stop". Internally I'm calm (mostly) and fully cognizant of what I'm going to say and how I'm going to say it. Emotions in the heat of the moment are controlled (yeah, much like Spock). Advantage Lancer.
(fwiw, being a walking petri dish has helped, too. If anyone is gonna take a swing at me, I'm obligated to tell 'em I have HIV and drawing blood could be bad for THEIR health).
For me, it's been a matter of channeling my anger. I rarely participate in protests, although there was a particularly nasty megachurch near here and I participated in that protest.
Neither is my forte organizing political actions, committees, etc. Having had several years in D.C., I recognize immediately when the participants are more interested in their own press to advance a career than the issue at hand.
My strength is one-on-one. At first it didn't seem like much. But, as life itself has so often reminded me, I cannot possibly foresee the outcome of my actions...and I may never know either. I guess it goes for 12-step meetings and MS, too. I never know when a word or phrase may click with someone and make a difference. Takes the pressure off any sense I might have of being someone's "savior". lol...as YOU know, dear brother, I just say what's on my mind.