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#433680 - 05/06/13 01:39 AM Sex problems
kinghenri Offline


Registered: 05/06/09
Posts: 214
Loc: Tucson Arizona
Sometimes I just can't perform.
My arousal cycle is all twisted.
Just being naked with a girl can be triggering.
I've made love many times but only ever stayed present a few times.

Someone please please pleeeeaaaase tell me they've managed to overcome sexual dysfunction because I'll be damned if I'm going to live my life without enjoying sex. I'm don't want to roll over and give up on this.
I'm not going to have my manhood stripped away like my childhood was.
I won't fucking stand for that.
Sorry and thank you.
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"In my life, I have seen,
People walk into the sea,
Just to find memories,
Plagued by constant misery,
Their eyes cast down,
Fixed upon the ground,
Their eyes cast down

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#433681 - 05/06/13 01:45 AM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
kinghenri Offline


Registered: 05/06/09
Posts: 214
Loc: Tucson Arizona
Anyone? I need to know there's hope.
I'm in my 20's and I've moved out of isolation and self hatred.
I've learned to trust a bit more.
I've done alot of healing and I'm ready.
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"In my life, I have seen,
People walk into the sea,
Just to find memories,
Plagued by constant misery,
Their eyes cast down,
Fixed upon the ground,
Their eyes cast down

I'll keep my eyes fixed on the sun"

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#433689 - 05/06/13 02:45 AM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
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Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3603
Loc: South-East Europe
Hey man, I'm sure it is possible to work on this.
I don't have much own experience with it as I'm in some sort of celibacy as it seems, lol.
I know that is more than common with many men and I?m sure there is a lot of help available.
Have you tried to talk with someone about it or some med that helps maybe?
Here is similar topic that could help you not to feel alone with this problem:
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...5672#Post415672

Pero
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#433707 - 05/06/13 06:21 AM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
Life's A Dream Offline


Registered: 08/25/11
Posts: 886
Loc: Bouvet Island
I have the same problem. I only became sexually active as an adult for the first time at age 27, and now at age 29, having been with MANY people, I have never been able to control my mind during sex, and it ruins it.

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#433709 - 05/06/13 06:42 AM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
Poorsoft Offline


Registered: 02/20/13
Posts: 163
Same story here. Im yet to find a solution smirk

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#433752 - 05/06/13 12:51 PM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
Castle Offline


Registered: 10/03/09
Posts: 727
Loc: NJ
Taking my toys, and heading home.


Edited by Castle (12/18/13 08:01 PM)
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#433753 - 05/06/13 12:56 PM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
Castle Offline


Registered: 10/03/09
Posts: 727
Loc: NJ
Taking my toys, and heading home.


Edited by Castle (12/18/13 08:01 PM)
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#433759 - 05/06/13 01:07 PM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
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Registered: 05/16/12
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Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 02:57 PM)

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#433763 - 05/06/13 01:22 PM Re: Sex problems [Re: bodyguard8367]
Life's A Dream Offline


Registered: 08/25/11
Posts: 886
Loc: Bouvet Island
Originally Posted By: bodyguard8367
Kinghenri,
For ME...the most important thing was to shut down the thoughts in my head. I could do that by forgetting about what I thought was supposed to happen and just be in the moment with the partner I was with.


It's just so much easier said than done. For me it's like trying to grab hold of eels coated in slime. It's almost impossible to get a grip on it and stay in the moment. I laugh. I keep very rapidly forgetting and remembering I'm in the middle of sex. I think of completely unrelated daydreams. And it's pretty much uncontrollable for me. I would need to be tied up and have my partner focus exclusively on making me orgasm and stay in the moment. It would take a very dedicated partner. But then again, all my partners have been random craigslist encounters- almost like being a prostitute who doesn't charge.


Edited by Life's A Dream (05/06/13 01:22 PM)

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#433768 - 05/06/13 02:01 PM Re: Sex problems [Re: kinghenri]
kinghenri Offline


Registered: 05/06/09
Posts: 214
Loc: Tucson Arizona
Wow thanka guys. This is helpful.
I guess I have to accept that I can't just do it.
I need to find a trustworthy partner and work on healing.
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"In my life, I have seen,
People walk into the sea,
Just to find memories,
Plagued by constant misery,
Their eyes cast down,
Fixed upon the ground,
Their eyes cast down

I'll keep my eyes fixed on the sun"

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