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#433551 - 05/04/13 07:29 PM A Code for Life
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5750
Loc: O Kanada
"Until the philosophy which holds one race superior and another inferior is finally and permanently discredited and abandoned, everywhere is war."
     ~ Robert Marley

i know a lot of people don't like religion.
neither did i.

this man Don Miguel Ruiz has some very valuable lessons,
and a brilliant philosophy which has helped me through many dark periods.
it is more than a way of thinking,
it is an easy to remember formula that has literally saved my life on several occasions.

he teaches a very simple, memorable, four step method.
there are no "rules" i "must" obey.
there are only agreements i can voluntarily choose to accept on my own terms.
commitments that i can try to live up to.
if I give it my best effort,
i might just achieve some validation,
and experience improvement in the quality of life.

here is the summary.
the four agreements - don miguel ruiz's code for life

agreement 1

I agree to be impeccable with my word - Speak with integrity. Say only what i mean. Avoid using the word to speak against myself or to gossip about others. Use the power of my word in the direction of truth and love.

agreement 2

I agree to never take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of me. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When i am immune to the opinions and actions of others, i won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

agreement 3

I agree never to make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what i really want. Communicate with others as clearly as i can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, i can completely transform my life.

agreement 4

I agree to always do my best - My best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when i am healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do my best, and i will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.


the beauty is, these are not commandments.
they are commitments.
it is all about freedom of choice.
i know that i automatically rebel against any rule or restriction, because of power/control issues,
but it was easy for me to "agree" with these obviously good ideas.

all of his books are just expansion of these four concepts.
you will find more about him here...



4 agreements

Don Miguel Ruiz Youtube Playlist


#433559 - 05/04/13 09:14 PM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5750
Loc: O Kanada
here is more spiritual guidance from an american aboriginal.

powerful good medicine.

Richard Wagamese

his writings have changed my life.
in fact, he is the source of my signature motto below.
"a warrior must learn the art of healing"

( i believe it is an improvement on my previous motto which i received from nietzsche...
"what does not destroy me, makes me stronger."
this phrase had been my battle cry since my early twenties.
it taught me endurance, survival, tenacity, optimism... but not healing.

i was always aware that a warrior needs to know how to fight.

i focused on improving my offensive and defensive skills.
constantly collecting new and better weapons for my arsenal.
i sought and envisioned only victory.
who wants to be a "loser"?
i was a "winner", not a "wiener", not a "whiner".

it had never occured to me that healing is just as important as fighting.
if you do not heal, you cannot fight again.

a warrior who cannot recover from his wounds is like a disposable razor. useful, but not for long.
once it becomes dull and blunted, it no longer functions as it should.

you do not need to win every battle to win the war.

this man's books taught me that there is still dignity in defeat.

check out some of his own words here:
- One Story One Song
- Speaking My Truth
- Him Standing
- The Next Sure Thing
- Indian Horse
- Letter to Prime Minister of Canada
- Richard Wagamese Blog
- Richard Wagamese Books
- Richard Wagamese Speech


#447888 - 09/22/13 09:36 AM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
ScottSmith Offline

Registered: 03/18/12
Posts: 26
Loc: CA desert
dont take it personally.
this one helps me the most.
doing my best
this one is the hardest
"You can always hear the laughter but seldom hear a tear fall."
Keith Johnstone

#447903 - 09/22/13 01:32 PM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
OCN Offline

Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 346
Loc: Western Europe
I have the 4 agreements hanging in my bedroom closet.. smile

I dont look at it much, but sometimes i do.. and then i'll try to follow these agreements.. thank you for the reminder!
Trust me, you are worth it to love yourself!

I now know who I am - I've never been anybody else!

#452052 - 10/31/13 01:37 PM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
Amandla Offline

Registered: 08/18/13
Posts: 6
Loc: South Africa Soweto
I also to these commitment.
Be Strong and Smile.

#455588 - 11/30/13 03:57 PM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5750
Loc: O Kanada
It is only necessary to make war with five things; with the maladies of the body, the ignorances of the mind, with the passions of the body, with the seditions of the city and the discords of families.
     ~ Pythagoras of Samos

Carlos Castaneda was an anthropologist seeking to do field work on the use of medicinal plants when he met don Juan Matus. Castaneda’s guide became his guru, who introduced him into a new way of thought and being, based on the knowledge of the seers of his lineage. Dr. Castaneda wrote twelve books on his apprenticeship.
Carlos Castaneda Interview

These are some works of Carlos Castaneda,
available here in downloadable pdf files.

The Teachings of Don Juan

Journey to Ixtlan

Magical Passes

Power of Silence

Second Ring of Power

The Active Side of Infinity

The Art of Dreaming

The Fire From Within

i have read all of CC's material,
and i found them to be very empowering.

full of spiritual strategies,
the philosophy and practical advice produced positive results in my life.

there are wise words,
and ways to deal with injustice and injury.

excellent reading.
hope you enjoy.


A Separate Reality:

Teachings of Don Juan:

Active Side of Infinity:



#455602 - 11/30/13 06:15 PM The Art of War [Re: victor-victim]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5750
Loc: O Kanada
The Art of War
by Sun Tzu

“The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.”

"Hence to fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence;
supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting."

“Victorious warriors win first and then go to war,
while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win.”

“Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory.
Tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat.”

“There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare.”

“In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity.”

“One may know how to conquer without being able to do it.”

“One mark of a great warrior is that he fights on his own terms or fights not at all.”

“If you know the enemy and know yourself,
you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.
If you know yourself but not the enemy,
for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat.
If you know neither the enemy nor yourself,
you will succumb in every battle.”

the original way of the warrior's guide.
a life strategy, mental discipline from over 2500 years ago.

DOWNLOAD = Sun Tzu Art of War


#455604 - 11/30/13 07:10 PM Miyamoto Musashi [Re: victor-victim]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5750
Loc: O Kanada
"Achieve the spirit of the warrior.
Today is victory over yourself of yesterday.
Tomorrow is your victory over lesser men."

Miyamoto Musashi

Go Rin No Sho : The Book of Five Rings
One of Japan's great samurai sword masters penned in decisive, unfaltering terms this certain path to victory, and like Sun Tzu's The Art of War it is applicable not only on the battlefield but also in all forms of competition.
Always observant, creating confusion, striking at vulnerabilities--these are some of the basic principles.
Going deeper, we find the interval of vulnerability, of indecisiveness, of rest,
the briefest but most vital moment to strike.
In succinct detail, Miyamoto records ideal postures, blows, and psychological tactics to put the enemy off guard and open the way for attack.
Most important of all is Miyamoto's concept of rhythm, how all things are in harmony, and that by working with the rhythm of a situation we can turn it to our advantage with little effort.

This is the Way for men who want to learn my strategy:
* Do not think dishonestly.
* The Way is in training.
* Become acquainted with every art.
* Know the Ways of all professions.
* Distinguish between gain and loss in worldly matters.
* Develop intuitive judgment and understanding for everything.
* Perceive those things which cannot be seen.
* Pay attention even to trifles.
* Do nothing which is of no use.

Originally Posted By: Miyamoto Musashi
By knowing things that exist, you can know that which does not exist.
That is the void.
People in this world look at things mistakenly, and think that what they do not understand must be the void.
This is not the true void. It is bewilderment.
Both in fighting and in everyday life you should be determined though calm.
Meet the situation without tenseness yet not recklessly, your spirit settled yet unbiased.
Even when your spirit is calm do not let your body relax, and when your body is relaxed do not let your spirit slacken.
With your spirit settled, accumulate practice day by day, and hour by hour.
Polish the twofold spirit heart and mind, and sharpen the twofold gaze perception and sight.
When your spirit is not in the least clouded, when the clouds of bewilderment clear away, there is the true void.

Miyamoto Musashi,
also known as Shinmen Takezoo, Miyamoto Bennosuke,
or by his Buddhist name Niten Dooraku,
was a Japanese swordsman famed for his duels and distinctive style.
Musashi, as he is often simply known, gives his full name and title in Gorin no Sho as Shinmen Musashi-no-Kami Fujiwara no Genshin.
He became legendary through his outstanding swordsmanship in numerous duels, even from a very young age.
He is the founder of the Hyoohoo Niten Ichi-ryuu or Niten-ryuu style of swordsmanship and the author of The Book of Five Rings (Go Rin No Sho), a book on strategy, tactics, and philosophy that is still studied today.

you can read the book here: Books/Book of Five Rings - Musashi.pdf

"An elevated spirit is weak and a low spirit is weak.
Do not let the enemy see your spirit.
You must make the best of the situation,
see through the enemy's spirit
so that you grasp his strategy and defeat him."

Miyamoto Musashi


#456295 - 12/07/13 08:25 AM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
OCN Offline

Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 346
Loc: Western Europe
The Tao Te Ching

Daodejing, or Dao De Jing (dào "way"; dé "virtue"; jing "classic" or "text"), also simply referred to as the Laozi,[1][2] is a Chinese classic text. According to tradition, it was written around 6th century BC by the sage Laozi (or Lao Tzu, "Old Master"), a record-keeper at the Zhou dynasty court, by whose name the text is known in China. The text's true authorship and date of composition or compilation are still debated,[3] although the oldest excavated text dates back to the late 4th century BC.[1]

The text is fundamental to both philosophical and religious Taoism and strongly influenced other schools, such as Legalism, Confucianism and Chinese Buddhism, which when first introduced into China was largely interpreted through the use of Daoist words and concepts. Many Chinese artists, including poets, painters, calligraphers, and even gardeners have used the Daodejing as a source of inspiration. Its influence has also spread widely outside East Asia, and is amongst the most translated works in world literature.[1]

The Wade–Giles romanization "Tao Te Ching" dates back to early English transliterations in the late 19th century; its influence can be seen in words and phrases that have become well-established in English. "Daodejing" is the pinyin romanization.

Edited by OCN (12/07/13 08:27 AM)
Trust me, you are worth it to love yourself!

I now know who I am - I've never been anybody else!

#456311 - 12/07/13 02:01 PM Re: A Code for Life [Re: victor-victim]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5750
Loc: O Kanada
yes, good book.
also in my library.
great suggestion, OCN.

you can hear my story here.
explicit words set to aggressive music.
listen at your own risk.


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