i know a lot of people don't like religion. neither did i.
this man Don Miguel Ruiz has some very valuable lessons, and a brilliant philosophy which has helped me through many dark periods. it is more than a way of thinking, it is an easy to remember formula that has literally saved my life on several occasions.
he teaches a very simple, memorable, four step method. there are no "rules" i "must" obey. there are only agreements i can voluntarily choose to accept on my own terms. commitments that i can try to live up to. if I give it my best effort, i might just achieve some validation, and experience improvement in the quality of life.
here is the summary. -------------------------------- the four agreements - don miguel ruiz's code for life
I agree to be impeccable with my word - Speak with integrity. Say only what i mean. Avoid using the word to speak against myself or to gossip about others. Use the power of my word in the direction of truth and love.
I agree to never take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of me. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When i am immune to the opinions and actions of others, i won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
I agree never to make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what i really want. Communicate with others as clearly as i can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, i can completely transform my life.
I agree to always do my best - My best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when i am healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do my best, and i will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. ----------------------------------------------
the beauty is, these are not commandments. they are commitments. it is all about freedom of choice. i know that i automatically rebel against any rule or restriction, because of power/control issues, but it was easy for me to "agree" with these obviously good ideas.
all of his books are just expansion of these four concepts. you will find more about him here...
his writings have changed my life. in fact, he is the source of my signature motto below. "a warrior must learn the art of healing"
( i believe it is an improvement on my previous motto which i received from nietzsche... "what does not destroy me, makes me stronger." this phrase had been my battle cry since my early twenties. it taught me endurance, survival, tenacity, optimism... but not healing. )
i was always aware that a warrior needs to know how to fight.
i focused on improving my offensive and defensive skills. constantly collecting new and better weapons for my arsenal. i sought and envisioned only victory. who wants to be a "loser"? i was a "winner", not a "wiener", not a "whiner".
it had never occured to me that healing is just as important as fighting. if you do not heal, you cannot fight again.
a warrior who cannot recover from his wounds is like a disposable razor. useful, but not for long. once it becomes dull and blunted, it no longer functions as it should.
you do not need to win every battle to win the war.
this man's books taught me that there is still dignity in defeat.
Carlos Castaneda was an anthropologist seeking to do field work on the use of medicinal plants when he met don Juan Matus. Castaneda’s guide became his guru, who introduced him into a new way of thought and being, based on the knowledge of the seers of his lineage. Dr. Castaneda wrote twelve books on his apprenticeship. http://www.cleargreen.com/interviews/fro...-don-juan-matus
These are some works of Carlos Castaneda, available here in downloadable pdf files.
“The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.”
"Hence to fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting."
“Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win.”
“Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory. Tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat.”
“There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare.”
“In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity.”
“One may know how to conquer without being able to do it.”
“One mark of a great warrior is that he fights on his own terms or fights not at all.”
“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”
the original way of the warrior's guide. a life strategy, mental discipline from over 2500 years ago.
Go Rin No Sho : The Book of Five Rings One of Japan's great samurai sword masters penned in decisive, unfaltering terms this certain path to victory, and like Sun Tzu's The Art of War it is applicable not only on the battlefield but also in all forms of competition. Always observant, creating confusion, striking at vulnerabilities--these are some of the basic principles. Going deeper, we find the interval of vulnerability, of indecisiveness, of rest, the briefest but most vital moment to strike. In succinct detail, Miyamoto records ideal postures, blows, and psychological tactics to put the enemy off guard and open the way for attack. Most important of all is Miyamoto's concept of rhythm, how all things are in harmony, and that by working with the rhythm of a situation we can turn it to our advantage with little effort.
Miyamoto Musashi, also known as Shinmen Takezoo, Miyamoto Bennosuke, or by his Buddhist name Niten Dooraku, was a Japanese swordsman famed for his duels and distinctive style. Musashi, as he is often simply known, became legendary through his outstanding swordsmanship in numerous duels, even from a very young age. He is the founder of the Hyoohoo Niten Ichi-ryuu or Niten-ryuu style of swordsmanship and the author of The Book of Five Rings (Go Rin No Sho), a book on strategy, tactics, and philosophy that is still studied today.
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The Tao Te Ching
Daodejing, or Dao De Jing (dào "way"; dé "virtue"; jing "classic" or "text"), also simply referred to as the Laozi, is a Chinese classic text. According to tradition, it was written around 6th century BC by the sage Laozi (or Lao Tzu, "Old Master"), a record-keeper at the Zhou dynasty court, by whose name the text is known in China. The text's true authorship and date of composition or compilation are still debated, although the oldest excavated text dates back to the late 4th century BC.
The text is fundamental to both philosophical and religious Taoism and strongly influenced other schools, such as Legalism, Confucianism and Chinese Buddhism, which when first introduced into China was largely interpreted through the use of Daoist words and concepts. Many Chinese artists, including poets, painters, calligraphers, and even gardeners have used the Daodejing as a source of inspiration. Its influence has also spread widely outside East Asia, and is amongst the most translated works in world literature.
The Wade–Giles romanization "Tao Te Ching" dates back to early English transliterations in the late 19th century; its influence can be seen in words and phrases that have become well-established in English. "Daodejing" is the pinyin romanization.
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