Your friend was right, this is a place that can help further your journey of recovery and healing. I'm so sorry for what happened to you. But the best thing you can do for yourself is talk about it. Every time you do, a little of the shame is chipped away.
You among a large group of guys who understand your feelings and experiences. Who won't judge you or doubt you. We will be here for you when it gets rough, and will cheer you on when you are making progress.
Good luck, and I hope to hear more from you.
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell