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#431764 - 04/19/13 01:43 PM Lost... how do I get found?
csasurvivor1992 Offline


Registered: 03/25/13
Posts: 132
Loc: Texas
I am sitting here lost. I am withdrawn, isolated both physically and mentally. I am full of tears that I want to shed, but I don't know how. I don't want to be around anyone. I don't want to be around people.

How can I get out of this funk? I want to figure this crap out. I don't know how.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
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#431767 - 04/19/13 01:51 PM Re: Lost... how do I get found? [Re: csasurvivor1992]
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CSASurvivor,
I can relate to the feeling. I have times when I withdraw in pain thinking that no one can understand the depth of pain I am feeling. I am lucky to have a great therapist and survivor group that I force myself to reach out to when I am in this place. I couldn't live without this support network. Also, this is site is a great group of guys that understand our pain. If you don't currently have a therapist, I suggest that you find one that understands this complex issue we are all facing.
I wish you all the best in your journey!
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#431804 - 04/19/13 10:24 PM Re: Lost... how do I get found? [Re: csasurvivor1992]
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Originally Posted By: csasurvivor1992
I am sitting here lost. I am withdrawn, isolated both physically and mentally. I am full of tears that I want to shed, but I don't know how. I don't want to be around anyone. I don't want to be around people.


Hi, Csasurvivor1992. I think that maybe, deep down, you do want to be around people. Otherwise, it wouldn't be causing you a "funk". I honestly don't want to be around people better than 95% of the time and it doesn't cause me a funk at all. I'm not exactly happy, but it's not for lack of human connection.

If you're feeling bad just because you don't want to be around people, try not to. Why should you let that make you feel bad? If you don't want to be around people, just don't be around people. I'm not going to let anyone, not even inner voices, tell me that I am wrong for preferring seclusion. If you prefer seclusion and don't want to be around people, just go with it, and be at peace with it. If you can't, maybe you do need to find way to connect with people. I wish I could help with that but that would be one of those blind leading the blind sort of things. Peace,

Ken

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#431807 - 04/19/13 10:50 PM Re: Lost... how do I get found? [Re: csasurvivor1992]
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Registered: 08/09/12
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Loc: New England
Originally Posted By: csasurvivor1992
...I am full of tears that I want to shed, but I don't know how. I don't want to be around anyone.....I want to figure this crap out. I don't know how. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
Hey csasurvvior,

You bet we do. I'd be surprised if there were any of us here who didn't get what you are feeling. There's no easy answer though. Sometimes all you can do is allow yourself to feel the feelings, experience the sadness and pain, and wait for the tears to come. They will, and once started it will be hard to stop them.

For me, recovery has been about serious therapy, total honesty, facing what happened to me, and talking about it. Whats more, I have forced myself to be among people, however awkward and uncomfortable it may be.

Whatever it takes for you, you can do this. You're a SURVIVOR.

Jude
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"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "
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#431882 - 04/20/13 06:06 PM " [Re: csasurvivor1992]
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Edited by lbcali1978 (04/29/13 12:36 AM)
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They said

Come home

I said

I'm confused and alone

They said

We understand

I found out they don't

I'll walk the path exactly how I've always done it

Alone

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