Hi Sticky (hehehehe)
I am a survivor, yep actually thriver, one who has dealt with their demons, and there were many.
It is a big step for him to tell you that, but BUT often it is a step that he takes to get control over his situation, to get your sympathy and to throw you off your original course of action.
I chucked my wife a couple off bones and kept her of divorcing me for 15 years.
Dont let him do this to you.
Yoiu need to study up on Co-Dependance, Im not trying to label you, but you WILL be affected by his behaviour, learn about dealing with this and you will toughen yourself up and help him more.
His BiPolar diagnosis is to me (IN MY PERSONAL OPINION) the therapists way of labeling something that they really dont understand. When in Doubt, give it a name and give em drugs.
Keep the momentum going, tell him to join this site. Start talking to him about the abuse and dont let him hide away from it. I am of the Dr Phill School of treatment..... We know what it is now lets deal with it.
Study as much as you can, buy him books, "Evicting the perpetrator" is a good one, Mike Lews books are good.
I did a little research here and asked wives a few questions. Men will generally tell their wives one incident and then leave it and not talk about it for up to 10 years. So dont let the power he has given you slip away. PUSH PUSH PUSH. Men here will say dont, Butr believe me, I wish my wife had pushed all those years ago, then I would not have wasted all these years.
It is really precious to be healthy and happy, to be "normal", help him achieve this.
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