Last year I went to CSA Stop the Silence 8K race. I mingled and this year I decided I would be more in the front. I ran the race and met some wonderful people--supporters, survivors and for some surviving children and parents of those who at sometime in their life was subjected to CSA. One father and mother who attend regularly told me of their sorrow--their son was a victim and his life was full of troubles--the son would say he did not remember doing things or other times he would tell them he did not know what overcame him--the parents regret was they told him get over it. The father said he did and he was no longer with them. And a daughter who takes her three young children for them to remember and hopefully who her mother was. The mother suffered but the daughter regrets she did not have more understanding instead she listened to her father that her mother was weak. They treated her horribly, the mother would leave for days and be found in places that were tentative. Her mother claimed not to know where she was at those times. The family treated her horribly and the woman said she regrets how she treated her Mom who did not survive (she was lost to prescription drugs). She said her father's know it all attitude instead of seeking help for himself turned them against her. I told her parts of my past and could in many ways relate to her mother. She said, hopefully your children will begin to understand, because one day they will regret their actions toward you and live with regrets and sadness. It seems both families learned too late how fragile many victims of CSA are and the triggers that destroy their lives. Now they live with regrets and support others who have been inflicted. And there were parents and children standing with their parent or child who was a victim of CSA. Supporters with hearts of gold and compassion that seemed to be unyielding.
There were survivors like many of us who are healing and some who have made remarkable strides in recovering and giving back to the cause of CSA. And there were other survivors who were abandoned by those around them but found new hope and strength from others and their lives are on the uptick.
For me it was an inspirational day. One that gives me hope for victims/survivor and supporters.
Edited by KMCINVA (04/15/13 11:23 AM)