Those who have read some of the more popular accounts of extreme abuse (I'm thinking in particular of "A Child Called It") can minimize the experiences of people whose story doesn't live up to that level of dramatics.
It is for this very reason I won't discuss my CSA or any of the other traumatic elements of my childhood with anyone anymore. Not with ANY FUCKING ONE!!! Not even with the people in my life who I have told about it. I've had minimization and invalidation coldly slapped back in my face to many fucking times. My best friend since high school even said to me, "I'm not sure what happened to you was really that big a deal. I know it was a big deal to you but I don't think it would have been a big deal to most people." FUCKING REALLY?
That's like the worst possible thing you could say to someone in a situation like mine who opens up and let's you see their pain. He's not the only person who's said some shit like that to me. So, I didn't stop being friends with him, I just stopped opening up to him. Or anyone, other than people now, on this board.
Thanks for posting this and allowing me to get that off my chest. Peace,