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#429882 - 04/02/13 09:31 PM . [Re: Life's A Dream]
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#429883 - 04/02/13 09:34 PM . [Re: Life's A Dream]
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#429887 - 04/02/13 10:21 PM Re: How does my Dad ALWAYS know when I post Craigslist [Re: Life's A Dream]
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LAD,

I love you like a brother, but you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself. For real.

This is not about your father. This about your Craigslist acting out and how it is negatively affecting your life. All this stuff about your father is you projecting your problem onto someone else.

Stop posting on Craigslist. Stop it.

Cant
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#429890 - 04/02/13 10:24 PM . [Re: cant_remember]
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#429894 - 04/02/13 10:41 PM Re: How does my Dad ALWAYS know when I post Craigslist [Re: Life's A Dream]
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That's not what I'm saying.

I'm saying it's two different issues.

Issue #1 is Craigslist. That issue you have control over and you need to control it.

Issue #2 is your dissociative amnesia, which you cannot control, and which you need help sorting out. It could have been your dad; or not. You and I have had these conversations already. You know where I am on this and that I empathize with you deeply.

But you are conflating Issues #1 and #2 by trying to "talk" to your dad through your Craigslist ads, which is just you throwing gasoline onto your own fire.

If you think he's smirking at you, why don't you just ask him. I know from my own thoughts on confronting my perp when he was still alive that he could always just deny it and you've got nothing to go on...

But have you talked to your dad, and told him how you feel and ask if he touched you sexually when you were young? He's already seen your ads, so there's no secrets. He will probably say no, but it might open up a productive dialog and line of communication with him.

So, to reiterate, I am not rendering a judgement as to your hypothesis that your father was your perp; I am only talking about controlling what you can control, which in this case, is your Craigslist posting.

Cant
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#429897 - 04/02/13 10:50 PM . [Re: cant_remember]
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#429899 - 04/02/13 11:27 PM Re: How does my Dad ALWAYS know when I post Craigslist [Re: Life's A Dream]
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You wouldn't have to ask directly to get a response from him. You could start a conversation about the craigslist ads and just say something like, "I think something happened to me when I was very young, but I can't remember. Do you have any idea what might have happened?"

He's obviously not going to then spill his guts, but there's a way to start that conversation without directly asking him if he touched you.

Cant
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#429902 - 04/02/13 11:50 PM . [Re: cant_remember]
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#429903 - 04/02/13 11:56 PM . [Re: Life's A Dream]
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#429910 - 04/03/13 04:02 AM Re: How does my Dad ALWAYS know when I post Craigslist [Re: Life's A Dream]
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Hey LAD I'm sorry if your father is spying on you and if that is bringing uneasy and anxious feelings.
But beside all that I hope you are trying to calm down your Craig list adds activities and also I wonder if you shared your photos with strangers frown ?

Please look how to help yourself as your environment is not the safest and could be more supportive. As same with many of us you need every possible support and resource pointed to healing and recovery,

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