This used to happen to me quite a bit, less often now. I've lost friends based on the stuff I used to do in these fugues (not sure if its technically what professionals call a fugue but close enough). In college I used to take off in the middle of class and go running off into the woods. One time in the middle of the night I climbed up a fire escape to the roof of the library. I once threatened my parents with a piece of piping in my hand. What helped me was a better understanding of my DID, lots of therapy, and some much-needed medication. Its not unheard of. It is serious though.
A little tough love: look at it from your wife's perspective. Its not unreasonable that she got scared. I have a kid alter (thats a DID/MPD term) that is sweet as can be but used to throw things when he got upset or scared. That's inappropriate for a child, but that child was in the body of a large full grown man and to my wife it was literally terrifying. These kind of issues need to take priority. Procrastinating is only increasing the chances that someone will get hurt.
Are you still seeing a T? If not, it may be time to start again. If so, make sure you relate all this to him.
Be safe and keep those you love safe.
Like a spent gladiator
crawling in the colosseum dust
who can count on his remaining limbs
all the people he can trust.
Like the one who stands behind him
cheering him on
Estatic when he stands defiant,
wild with abandon when he's gone
just stay alive.
do whatever you need to.
you are worth it.