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#428880 - 03/24/13 12:41 AM Confused - attraction
Magellan Offline

Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1563
Loc: California
stupid confused posting deleted.

Edited by Magellan (04/19/13 06:35 PM)

#428882 - 03/24/13 01:10 AM Re: Confused - attraction [Re: Magellan]
Farmer Boy Offline

Registered: 08/23/12
Posts: 442
Loc: Australia

D this is HUGE....I feel nervous for you....and excited.

Your heart doesn't understand labels - so be open to where it might lead you. Forget about labels for now.

Just relax and go with it....who knows...

A while back Jude made a post with a link to an article on this very subject...

I wish you luck.

More than meets the eye!

#428883 - 03/24/13 01:13 AM Re: Confused - attraction [Re: Magellan]
SouthernLaw Offline

Registered: 12/30/12
Posts: 12
Loc: Arkansas
i agree with farm!! i dont have the energy to get into the misgivings of my sexual conduct but dont feel alone brother.
As a recovering alcoholic and addict, I have found it difficult to learn to live with "feelings". I am still very emotionally "sick". So I am left with the question, "Now what". I can deal with the vicious cycle of being raped then loved but it is the fall out from the past that hurts me today.

#428917 - 03/24/13 12:53 PM Re: Confused - attraction [Re: Magellan]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1563
Loc: California
Thanks guys. I'm not all that excited. I am most likely completely misreading her signals. It feels like flirting, but people do harmless flirtations all the time.

What's confusing to me is that I really like looking at her, and I am digging her personality as well. But I have practically ZERO experience befriending people succesfully, much less befriending women I might be attracted to. Another thing, I'm 41, and she's likely in her early / mid 20's.

So I'm most likely completely misreading the whole thing.

#429071 - 03/25/13 12:46 PM Re: Confused - attraction [Re: Magellan]
Alun Offline

Registered: 07/30/08
Posts: 6
Loc: UK
Magellan. Stay with it. I have a very good female friend who is half my age. Forget labels. Go with what's real. Just don't let fantasy get the upper hand

#429072 - 03/25/13 01:03 PM Re: Confused - attraction [Re: Magellan]
cant_remember Offline

Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1050
So proud of you, Magellan.

Try to listen to your emotions and try to regulate the feelings you are feeling. Play it cool.

Keep us posted!

Recovery is possible. Hang in there, brothers.

#429110 - 03/25/13 07:16 PM Re: Confused - attraction [Re: Magellan]
ericc Offline

Registered: 01/04/08
Posts: 1985
I was reading something just like this elsewhere. Maybe don't over analyze (I know, not easy sometimes) and see what happens.


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