How does one know if the feelings you have as to whether or not one is gay, bi or just imprinted?
My view is that men can have all kinds of sexual feelings
, but its always our choice which of those we act on. Our sexual attractions do not need to be what defines us. (note to my gay bros., I am not
saying that being gay is a choice).
Many of us CSA survivors have ambiguous sexual feelings. But ask yourself, "Who could I love and spend a lifetime with? A man, a woman, or either?" That helps me clarify the issue.
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell