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#428557 - 03/20/13 11:24 PM Re: Have a girl willing to be my first tonight [Re: Life's A Dream]
Candu Offline


Registered: 06/30/12
Posts: 312
Loc: Canada
Originally Posted By: Life's A Dream
I think I will truly only ever be able to find sexual fulfillment with a woman, but she would have to be someone where we were mutually deeply in love. That would change everything, I think.


Yes it makes a big difference.

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#428570 - 03/21/13 03:46 AM Thought you might like to go to the show? [Re: Life's A Dream]
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Registered: 03/13/12
Posts: 396
Loc: OH
On topic I would not suggest hooking up with this girl again if it means you will have to subject yourself to acting out with her gay roommate. It would worry me greatly if you had spoken to this guy about your history, SSA, and desire to move past it and he still pressured you at all for sex. If this is not the case and he no longer persists then it may just be okay. It sounded to me like he may be taking advantage of both the situation and you, which would be completely unacceptable. I wouldn't put it past anybody either especially on that site. Imagine if you will that craigslist were filled with women trying to "act out" with men. There would be no shortage of horny guys out there willing to have sex with them if they didn't understand the situation or even if they knew it was psychologically harmful to the woman.

That being said I really got into Pink Floyd late in high school. There are so many themes that overlap to the situation of survivors it makes me wonder about Roger Waters since the main protagonist is based on himself. The fact that it seems to resonate with so many of us here my also attest to this possibility although admittedly it is still speculation. I think I may put together a post exploring the album through the eyes of a, or should I say this survivor.
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#428574 - 03/21/13 04:10 AM . [Re: Publius]
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Registered: 08/25/11
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Edited by Life's A Dream (04/21/13 11:00 PM)

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#428582 - 03/21/13 05:43 AM Re: Thought you might like to go to the show? [Re: Life's A Dream]
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Registered: 02/02/11
Posts: 419
Loc: California USA
LAD glad you were able to branch out and try something new. I would be careful about her companion. The first time is always the most challenging. Don't worry about not being able to stay focused during sex. I have been married for over 20 years and I have never been able to stay focused on just my wife during sex. I guess it is just part of the sex abuse package.

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#428586 - 03/21/13 07:18 AM . [Re: mike13]
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Registered: 08/25/11
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Edited by Life's A Dream (04/21/13 11:00 PM)

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#428639 - 03/21/13 08:31 PM Re: Thought you might like to go to the show? [Re: Life's A Dream]
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Loc: New Jersey
LAD,
As someone who is still a virgin, I have a bit of a question. Do you think that it was helpful that you weren't in love with her with it being your first time? I mean do you think it took pressure off as in if I screw up and she doesn't enjoy it, I now may lose her? I mean if things had gone bad and you had problems or she didn't enjoy it, had you wanted to have a relationship with her, that might have created a problem, no?
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#428660 - 03/22/13 02:23 AM Re: Have a girl willing to be my first tonight [Re: Life's A Dream]
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Registered: 02/07/13
Posts: 47
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She's as messed up as me. We talked about having that in common.


Hey man,

What it it's her, not you? If she's got her own mess of stuff going on, bailing could be her own discomfort completely independent of you.
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#428716 - 03/22/13 03:03 PM . [Re: onlyakid]
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Edited by Life's A Dream (04/21/13 11:01 PM)

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#428717 - 03/22/13 03:06 PM . [Re: DRA]
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Edited by Life's A Dream (04/21/13 11:02 PM)

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#429010 - 03/25/13 12:09 AM Re: Have a girl willing to be my first tonight [Re: Life's A Dream]
mike13 Offline
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Loc: California USA
LAD trust me making love to someone you are in love with is a whole new and wonderful ballgame. Hope you get the chance to play soon smile

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