"I totally believe that grief...or CSA aftermath is a condition to be managed. If forgiveness comes organically---then so be it. Don't expect it to be a "cure" or even a necessary step to managing the condition."
Completely agreed Suwanee
"As for forgiveness, I prefer to call it "letting go of the anger".
Precisely, this is the verbage I wish society would adopt when talking about recovery with the understanding, of course, that it occurs at each individual's own pace.
Alright, after reading Still's story I am going to go ahead and call CSA the elephant in the room when it comes to a lot of America's mental health issues. I had a similar experience when I was 16 yet society's reaction is underwhelming. Awhile back my friend told me about finding her ex-husband lounging around naked in the hot tub with her 11 year old sister. She yelled at him and he got out but one year later post-divorce she is apparently cutting herself and having sex with boys and girls. My first experience with a general issues group I hear a woman describe non-specific "problems" with her parents that led to her alcoholism. The leader of that meeting confided in me the fact that his father carried on with men compulsively despite his wife and kids at home. I wonder why.........btw the correct answers for politicians are 1. her mom is too hard on her 2. her parents weren't nurturing enough and 3. the devil made him do it and don't let me find you answering in any other way or I will pull your funding so fast...now excuse me, I have to go visit some strippers and a prostitute tonight who are in that profession because they are whores whose daddies did not love them enough. Preposterous.
"Life is like this dark tunnel. You may not always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you keep moving, you will come to a better place." ~ General Iroh