Hey CF --
A few practical ideas that worked for me, some better than others...and you're experiencing exactly the feelings I had. Consider, too, this will likely take years.
In general, like it or not, you're going to get an education. Sounds like you already are. The immediate practical benefit is that you'll be able to speak to law enforcement and legal professionals in a knowledgeable way. And that makes an impression.
In my experience - Ohio may be different - victim advocates weren't much use and simply shuttled me around. @SoccerStar - exactly my kind of experience.
Getting an attorney was one of the best things I did. The immediate effect is that they're the ones who can also help you navigate the criminal portion and they may even have contacts who can help you with that.
Rather than endlessly search Interweb ads, I searched news items on CSA in the state where it occurred. I found out who the most successful attorneys in that field were and contacted them. Consultations - say, a half hour on the phone, are traditionally free (imo, if they want to charge you for an initial consultation, move on). Side benefit of the consultations is more education. Take lots of notes.
Some even provide a detailed intake form. I have one I can put up on SendSpace and I'll shoot you the link via PM. Whether or not you choose a particular attorney, it helped me organize my thoughts and provide details to any potential lawyer. It will probably be triggering. Take your time with it. Fill it out in as much detail as you can. Take frequent breaks, especially if you find you're too tired/triggered to fill out any more. Just put it aside for a day, a week, whatever you need. What it tells them is that you're a serious, responsible and involved potential client.
Don't settle for the first attorney. You must be comfortable with him/her and feel as though you can be scrupulously honest and tell him/her anything...because, in court, you'll be doing that anyway.
That was a tough one for me. I thought I had an attorney who I liked, until it became obvious he was more interested in his own spotlight, even if it meant re-victimizing me verbally. I called him on it - I CAN be quite the butch bitch - dumped him and found one with whom I was comfortable.
Cost in civil cases is typically 40% of any settlement, plus expenses.
PM me if I can help further.
(At the time I was doing this last year, I had a rather large PM thread going with several of the guys. I'm glad you brought this up so I can get my experience out there for anyone who needs it).