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#426725 - 02/28/13 02:26 AM Why I Ruin
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 6905
Loc: FEMA Region 1
It was not deliberate!

I did not deliberately ruin your life!

I did not know this would come back at you!

I did not know it couldn't be put behind me and let me move-on.

I did what the world told me to do. I got over it. I moved-on.

Had I known I carried the Ebola virus, I would have stayed away.

I did not know that I could not just put it behind me.

I loved you...I wanted that life that we actually built. Regardless of what you say these days, I hope you wanted it too...back when we built...before we tore-down.

Another member said it this way:
My fault? How's this my fault? [Dean Vernon Wormer, 1978]

#427174 - 03/05/13 05:17 AM Re: Why I Ruin [Re: Still]
confusion4life Offline

Registered: 02/12/12
Posts: 109
Loc: Italy
so sorry! i hope s/he reads this as well. it would make him/ her feel better too.

everything is always okay in the end, if it's not, then it's not the end

#427906 - 03/13/13 10:27 AM Re: Why I Ruin [Re: Still]
sugarbaby Offline

Registered: 08/17/08
Posts: 378
Keep expressing it.

I mean this in the nicest possible way - so I hope it comes across that way:

It feels like you are beating yourself up quite a bit. Stop that. She was a grown woman who made decisions, just like me. Sometimes I get pissed and feel I wasn't shown all the cards BUT ultimately I was/am a grown up who made/makes decisions, just like her. You guys are only half the equation NOT the whole thing.

Keep expressing it though. Getting the old stuff out is the only way I know of to let the new better stuff in.


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