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#426311 - 02/24/13 01:18 PM Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers"
peroperic2009 Offline

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3698
Loc: South-East Europe
This is sick beyond limits.

Poor, poor kids and shame to adoption agency even if worked according to the laws they allowed monster to adopt kids and obviously didn't care enough for kids frown :

"The 40-year-old man, whom The Associated Press isn't naming to protect the children's identities, said in an interview that he had been a foster parent, youth basketball coach and substitute teacher for years without any problems. He said he didn't adopt the boys with bad intentions...

...He said he had been sexually abused as a child by a close family member and blames that for his feeling that he wasn't do anything wrong when he began taking the boys into his bed in what he claimed was a way of showing love.

"I never forced the boys to do anything," he said. "That might not mean anything to anyone else, but it's important to me."

But his explanation doesn't account for subsequently inviting a man to their Troy home to rape one of the boys, and then taking the same boy to another man's home to be raped. He agreed that was wrong, although he stressed that he didn't prostitute the boy by getting anything in return.

Police reported that when they interviewed the boy, then age 10, who had also been raped by the two other men, he began "shaking," after initially refusing to confirm that anything wrong had happened.

He told police he "didn't want to be taken from this home and separated from his new brothers and sister," a police report stated."
My story

#426319 - 02/24/13 03:06 PM Re: Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers" [Re: peroperic2009]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
I'm sorry...but WTF is the word "unusual" doing in the title?

As for humanity: Apocalypse any time now Lord!!!

#426362 - 02/24/13 11:54 PM Re: Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers" [Re: Still]
Jacob S Offline

Registered: 01/01/13
Posts: 617
Loc: where the shadows lie
Originally Posted By: Still
I'm sorry...but WTF is the word "unusual" doing in the title?

As for humanity: Apocalypse any time now Lord!!!

I think this is where they are getting that from.

Ohio officials don't believe there has been a comparable case in the state in recent years, and media reports over the past five years show only a handful of reported cases nationally in which adoptive fathers sexually abused children in their care. Child abuse by adoptive fathers is much rarer than by biological fathers, or by other male relatives and non-relatives, federal studies have indicated.

"This isn't a typical situation. It certainly isn't typical of people seeking adoption," said David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire. "Most abusers of this sort have an interest in a child during a certain period of their development. They are looking for opportunities where they can get access to the kids. They don't want to have custodial responsibility."

edit: and actually, I appreciate the use of the word "unusual." It makes a point of saying that there aren't hordes of survivors out there looking to adopt kids for nefarious purposes. There's a line to walk between not underestimating the problem and not accusing survivors of being predators-in-waiting, and I think the reporter did as good a job as anyone.

Edited by Jacob S (02/24/13 11:58 PM)
I come here now, and I see lots of anger.
I don't blame anyone for that. It is perfectly understandable.
But it is not healthy for me.
So I'm going somewhere else.

Goodbye and good healing.

#426363 - 02/25/13 12:24 AM Re: Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers" [Re: Jacob S]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA
I'm concerned for what I see is an avalanche of child sexual abuse in our country and in the world. I am told that huge numbers are watching kiddie porn, without regard to the harm done to the children. It is NOT OK. I speak as someone who was used in making of kiddie porn as a small child. It was very damaging.


Edited by pufferfish (02/25/13 12:45 AM)

#426370 - 02/25/13 01:56 AM Re: Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers" [Re: peroperic2009]
crazy gecko Offline

Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 309
"He said he had been sexually abused as a child by a close family member and blames that for his feeling that he wasn't doing anything wrong when he began taking the boys into his bed in what he claimed was a way of showing love."

And yet, "authorities arrested him a year ago Sunday following an undercover sting that began when a detective looked into an online posting about "taboo sex."

He posted about taboo sex. So he KNEW it was wrong. And still he uses the excuse that he was abused and didn't know it was wrong to make it all ok. He even shifts blame to the victims "I never forced them".

Excuse me, but that is BULLSHIT and just serves to fuel the stigmas and myths we fight so hard against.
I guess what I'm trying to say
Is whose life is it anyway because livin'
Living is the best revenge
You can play
-- Def Leppard

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#426403 - 02/25/13 10:21 AM Re: Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers" [Re: peroperic2009]
Lancer Offline

Registered: 07/13/12
Posts: 901
Loc: Florida
Two comments:

-Same old lame perp justifications. I just hope the kids are getting the help they need Right Now and that the agency understands how serious this is.

-I think the difference today is not so much that there's more abuse, but that survivors like us and our supporters have demanded it see the light of day. And the globe is completely interconnected. Heck, imo, institutions like the RCC and BSA are on the verge of collapse because of it.

#426411 - 02/25/13 11:12 AM Re: Rape of adopted kids -haunting case- "triggers" [Re: peroperic2009]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1617
Loc: New England
As an adoptive father, and CSA survivor, I am saddened by such things. I wish I could save all the children, but I'm only one man.

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Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
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