Welcome to MS.
I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.
I can hear the rage, and the outrage, in your words. With so much trauma, it is more than understandable. What is not understandable is that those who have a duty to help are refusing to listen to you. I just don't understand why law enforcement is refusing to look into the inappropriate things to which your kids have, and are, being exposed.
There are many forums here you may find helpful. There is the Men Abused/ Assaulted as Adults and the Survivors of Female Abuse, in addition to the Male Survivors and other forums.
You do not say whether or not you are in therapy. If you feel therapy is an option, there are resources available. For help in finding a therapist please read the Consumers Guide to Therapist Shopping
. Psychology Today
has listings of therapists for all states and counties. You can choose the type of therapist you are seeking as well as the area(s) to which you are willng to travel. Also check your county rape crisis center
. They offer services to males and females, at no cost to county residents. Some offer support groups in addition to individual therapy.
There are several books you might find useful.
Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
Victims No Longer by Mike Lew
Male Rape: Breaking the Silence on the Last Taboo by Richard McMullen
I am certain others will share titles they have found useful. You can find these titles, and others here at the bookstore
Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.
At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.
We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles
. They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on *Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone.
*The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is temporarily suspended.
Again, welcome to MS.