Many of us were unable to face the abuse and its affects on us, till later in life. It took me 42 years....2/3 of my life. For whatever time we have left, we can still become the whole healthy men we were meant to be. You came to the right place.
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell