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#425276 - 02/14/13 01:21 PM Hi
trytry Offline
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Registered: 02/13/13
Posts: 36
Loc: Wisconsin
I'm not sure how to start this off...

A few days ago I started to think about the memories from when I was abused as a child, I'm not sure why I was thinking about it. I thought it was in my past and would never come up again. I think I wanted to believe in my mind that it never happened and hoped that by never thinking about it or talking about it I could act as tho it never did happen.

One reason I want to try to deal with these issues is because I think it plays a part in my relationship. Often times I think that my wife does things on purpose to try to hurt me or make me mad, but I know she really isn't doing it on purpose and I'm just being stupid.

I'm glad to be here where people can relate to the experiences I've been through, based on the people I've talked to on the chat, you seem like a great group of people.



Edited by trytry (02/16/13 11:27 AM)

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#425277 - 02/14/13 01:25 PM Re: Hi [Re: trytry]
Obi Offline
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1394
Loc: kansas
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Edited by Obi (05/05/13 11:23 AM)
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#425300 - 02/14/13 07:31 PM Re: Hi [Re: trytry]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1596
Loc: New England
Dear Trytry,

Much of what you shared here is familiar to me. The sudden onset of disturbing memories. The relationship difficulties. The trust issues.

You come to a safe place to work on these things, with men who will support you because we have been there. It will get easier to talk about it in time. No need to rush, but then again, there's been too much delay already. When you feel ready to jump in, then go with it. We've got your back.

Jude
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Seems I've got to have a change of scene
Every night I have the strangest dreams
Imprisoned by the way it could have been
Left here on my own or so it seems
I've got to leave before I start to scream
Joe Cocker

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#425305 - 02/14/13 08:45 PM Re: Hi [Re: trytry]
trytry Offline
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Registered: 02/13/13
Posts: 36
Loc: Wisconsin
Thanks a lot, both of you.

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#425488 - 02/16/13 02:15 PM Re: Hi [Re: trytry]
Shyshark Offline


Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 419
Loc: Canada
Hey trytry ... smile

I saw a bad word in your introduction ...

You are not stupid ...

You just haven't tried figuring things out yet.

Confusion is the trademark of realizing you have been abused,

and that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach ...

That's dread ...

The fear that, if you think about it, all will be lost.


This is a place where others will help you understand all aspects
of how you feel ... and why ... and to help you ...

To face the past,
To deal with the present,
and
To look at your future.

You can't have a brighter future ... without banishing the darkness in your past.

Sharky
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#425492 - 02/16/13 03:44 PM Re: Hi [Re: Shyshark]
trytry Offline
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Registered: 02/13/13
Posts: 36
Loc: Wisconsin
Originally Posted By: Shyshark
You can't have a brighter future ... without banishing the darkness in your past.


Can't be said any better

Thanks man.

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