Keep trudging forward LP-u experience qualifies you for some kind of award!

I've learned to treat T shopping as comparison shopping- not investing too much until we meet and I have other T's to compare and contrast to.
Having safe and positive understanding and support is key - and I have to let my gut guide me. Reading lots of books, journaling, meditation, exercise and sharing here on MS are other ways I also take care of myself in addition to a T-I am very grateful for having a number of understanding guys who support me on this journey too.