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#423562 - 01/29/13 10:30 AM Will They Care?
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I've been pounding podiums and writing news items, films etc for years in attempt to change things...reduce, de-mystify, de-myth, and most of all - PROTECT children from CSA. I publicly condemn and shame pedos throughout the nation. I have a front yard and wall full of broken bottles to prove it. But if I cannot affect change in my own town, what am I? What are they?

My petition-ballots are now out in public. They only need signatures. I included stamped, addressed envelopes. Just sign and send.

The initiative is to ban registered sex offenders from child-intense properties and events in this town. This, in a town that regulates dogs and gun-owners into three-point wrestling-holds. They town leaders have previously refused to even consider adopting such an ordinance as one very very bad career pedo was a very close friend to most of this town.

Their accommodation and cover-up for him cost at least one more little girl her soul. When they attempted to cover-up their fk-up, I let them have it with everything I had. Print, radio, web, TV, CCTV...everything i had. I called them out after they shamelessly covered-up horrid enabling on their part.

Its truly spooky how they behave. It makes me wonder.

So the ballots are out. They will only determine if Child Safety Zones will just come up for a vote at the next annual town meeting.

I spent the weekend and all day yesterday and even this morning trying to encourage support from people, face-to-face.

This is my last attempt with "people..." with "humanity." if they don't make this happen for their own children, there is no hope left for this society.

Any guesses as to how many come back by Feb 15th? 100 are out there. I only need 25 to get it up for public vote.

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#423596 - 01/29/13 12:26 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Hang on Still, you are hell of a fighter smile !
Unfortunately no matter on good intentions sometimes others just can't fulfill our expectations.
I wish you all the best with this petition and I'm heavily praying that Chester will impose child safety zones frown

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#423610 - 01/29/13 03:01 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Still,
I certainly hope that you will get the signatures you need to bring it up for a vote. Though I am doubtful it will happen, everyone seems to be more concerned with themselves and not with even taking a second to help other people.

What you are doing is a great thing and it shows what a special and caring person you are. Don't forget that.
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#423614 - 01/29/13 03:09 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Still,
I will admit with shame that prior to this happening to my family....I did not give enough attention to this crime against children and humanity. I never thought it could happen to my family, not in a million years. Thank you for fighting even when you get tired, even when it feels hopeless...
Now that I know more, I will do more. It is my promise to you, my nephew and all those struggling that I will be more involved advocating for change.

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#423622 - 01/29/13 05:00 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Inscription on a bishop’s tomb in Westminster Abbey:

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize: If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.

As quoted by Orrin Woodward in his book, Resolved, 13 Resolutions for LIFE.

Still,

I've read your posts for the past 4.5 years, and the anger and rage come through loud and clear. Your story is, without a doubt, one of the most horrific I've ever read and my heart goes out to you. All I want to suggest is that your anger and rage may be turning off the very people you want to reach. You may want to look at that.

If you want to know what I am doing to share my story and get help at the same time, contact me privately. I'm very happy to share.
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#423629 - 01/29/13 06:02 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Steve J]
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Originally Posted By: Steve J
All I want to suggest is that your anger and rage may be turning off the very people you want to reach. You may want to look at that.


I have no doubt. I have left the issues and the causes for periods of time, before I act, but no one picks-up. True, no one wants to even get near the raging bull. Neither do I. Its not who I once was.

Its my rage, meant to be directed only at me. I guess when my character falls, others get splashed by the raging bull's sh*t.

But i suppose the topic is best left to "Nobody" if he's the only one interested.
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#423633 - 01/29/13 06:30 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Hey Still -- Glad to know you're carrying on the fight. And I don't have the answer except to support you.

fwiw, I think Steve J hit on a point that's worked for me which is very 12-steppy and keeps my mind quiet. But the Serenity Prayer has worked for me for many 24 hours. The only person I can change is myself.

Like Steve, I wanted to change the world in my 20s. Over the years I've whittled that down to my own little corner of it. I do what I can, but the outcome isn't necessarily up to me. It doesn't mean I won't be frustrated. If you will, frustration is my biggest frustration. More often today - not always - if it's not working, I move on to something or someone else.

As I got older, however, I also noticed that actions I'd taken over the years very often had consequences I could have never foreseen and that happened sometimes years after the fact. I don't sweat things as often.

I guess it's a kind of smug amusement I have when, for example, I see people freaking out in traffic or freaking out over a ten-cent error in the grocery checkout.

There was a guy, seemed like inches away, riding my bumper today, hunched over his steering wheel, when I was on my way to the doctor's office. My temptation was to jam on the brakes, let him mash me and "that would teach him a lesson." Except I'd have made myself late for a very important doctor's appointment, he perhaps was in a frame of mind where he could have become violent, etc., etc.

Put another way, it's not up to me to even the score. As I've often noticed with arrogant, aggressive types, they eventually reap their own karma...and often still don't get it! Hell, I'm busy enough just trying to keep MYSELF on track, let alone anyone else. It's real selfish, but after all the upheaval in my lifetime I often find I can be assertive and calm...and give some things a pass.

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#423639 - 01/29/13 07:23 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Still

I feel for your pain. But understand when less than 10% of the abused will show themselves, you may be expecting too much. Children and young adults who have been abused may be willing to meet and listen to each other, if the meeting place is safe.

To insure safety, you might begin with a notice asking them to attend a meeting. But, until they contact you, you would not tell them the location of the meeting. You may or may not be sure that the individual who contacts you experienced the abuse. They may be curious, they may be perps. If after talking with them you are not sure, ask that they sign the petition and do not tell them where to go.

Of those you invite to the meeting, tell them to tell no one else
or invite anyone else to the meeting. Even if they know the individual they wish to invite is a fellow victim. With the strength and support of their fellows, they have friends and relatives who they can ask for signatures. This can be done with or without disclosure.

This may significantly expand the number of signatures. It may also form the basis of a face to face self support group which may also have benefit. Over time the group can decide methods of inviting others to meetings and the size they want meetings to become, and how to clone themselves if the meeting is getting too large.

These are basic community organization methods that you may find helpful. I am sorry if this sounds kind of clinical, and places more burdens on the victims, but if they will not join in the effort, who would have more motivation.

I am not trying to lecture you, just offer some of my experience.

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#423648 - 01/29/13 08:55 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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Wars are often fought with rage. I understand.

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#423655 - 01/29/13 09:58 PM Re: Will They Care? [Re: Still]
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genedebs,

I think you have the wrong idea. Child Safety Zones and all my other efforts are never meant to call any victims out or cause any meetings. Child Safety Zones have been adopted by 50% of this nation. They are municipal ordinances that make it a crime for any registered sex offender to step foot on or in any child-intense, child-oriented areas such as playgrounds, parks, ball fields, town fairs, etc.

My town has had a severe problem with this, including the town leaders fully allowing and enabling a very aggressive pedo to be a food vendor at the Town Fair, both day and night.

He was a registered offender with blatant child rapes on his record and yet everyone ignored it and covered for him as he was "a good-old boy." Their good-old boy struck at least one more time on a little girl under 13. And was found to have thousands of child porn images in print and computer files, And was found to be a fellon in possession of a gun, And refused to re-register as required by law, And was given a construction contract by the town leaders to re-roof the children's rec center during the summer when it was being used by children.

The town leaders covered-up everything they could, refused to answer questions and/or be held accountable for hiring someone they all knew was a child rapist.

to make matters worse, we have a huge wooded park and swim-beach that is a strategic dream for predators. And vagrants have been trying to live in those woods during the warmer weather. One guy was caught who had violence-oriented warrants out for him in another state.

Literally no one was willing to lift a finger or raise a voice for this major public foul. Since I simply don't give a fk about me anymore, I took on the job. Now its just sad to see the town recoil in fear of the leadership and to see them sleep in heavenly apathy. Plus, MANY have cited that they "still really like Gary (the career pedo) and find it hard to believe...so...we'll have to think about it first.

God Bless Us, everyone!


Edited by Still (01/29/13 10:00 PM)
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