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#423073 - 01/24/13 12:58 AM I'm incompetent
onlyakid Offline
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Registered: 03/31/04
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Loc: New Jersey
Well I finally got back from my suspension at work and even though I'm trying I'm still making mistakes at work. I am afraid that I'm just incompetent, unable to do any job. Right now, I'm in danger of being fired. When I had my other job I always thought that it was my boss who was incompetent and the bad guy. Turns out it's me. Nothing is different.

I don't know what I'm gonna do if I lose this job.

I'm sitting here and eating poorly hoping that it will make the pain go away.


Jason
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#423111 - 01/24/13 01:01 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
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Registered: 06/27/12
Posts: 336
Quit feeling sorry for yourself. It's not doing you any good. Cut it out. It's a load of crap. Get over yourself!

(I say that with a heart full of love and support.)

Bob

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#423119 - 01/24/13 02:48 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
onlyakid Offline
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Bob,
Go fuck yourself.
( I say that with a heart full of love and support)

Jason
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#423120 - 01/24/13 02:53 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
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I'm sorry to hear all that Jason.
I hope it will get better at your work and I hope even more that you will not lose your job.

And guys please take it easy frown

Pero
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#423124 - 01/24/13 03:18 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: Robert1000]
Still Offline
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Originally Posted By: Robert1000
Quit feeling sorry for yourself. It's not doing you any good. Cut it out. It's a load of crap. Get over yourself!

(I say that with a heart full of love and support.)

Bob


OK...the "feeling sorry for ourselves?" I've never known WHAT that actually IS. How can we get raped as little boys, have our souls shredded for the orgasm of an adult/elder, be rendered "freakazoid" by society and expect to EVER get our shit together if we don't focus on ourselves?

BOB....BOB....Explain that please. I'm truly betting you can't remain focused on my question and assemble a real answer.

AND .... BOB... I've NEVER seen anyone kick a guy on this board when he's down like you just did. NEVER!
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#423127 - 01/24/13 04:30 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
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Jason - have you expressed those fears to your boss? You want to feel good about your job and you want to do better. Maybe if he knows that and if he is smart enough to also appreciate the value of an emotionally dedicated worker, he could be your best ally.
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#423134 - 01/24/13 05:55 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
cant_remember Offline
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Registered: 02/26/05
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Jason,

I agree with Eric. Talking to your boss can't hurt, and could do a lot of good.

And Bob, your tough love approach does not communicate well in a text-only forum. You meant to be helpful, but came across sounding like an ass, and triggered our friend Still, who has the best avatar pic in Whoville.

"Get over yourself" is fightin' words. Best to avoid that sort of thing.

Cant
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#423138 - 01/24/13 06:29 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
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Jason -

your anxiety is what is talking now - and it is what is causing you to perform below your usual level of competence. if you were not competent for this job they would have let you go already. try to find ways of calming yourself before starting work and whenever you can take a moment while there. arriving a little early will help so you are not rushed. regulate your breathing, close your eyes for a moment and visualize a peaceful scene, tell yourself that you are safe and in control, etc. whatever works for you. you can do this, man!

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#423626 - 01/29/13 05:29 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: onlyakid]
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Registered: 06/27/12
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Hey Jason, I appreciate your passion. That's a lot better than saying you're incompetent. Of course you're not incompetent. Thanks for rising to the bait. And if I offended you... well, I meant to get a rise out of you, but not to give offense. The same goes for you, Still, and Cant.

I know I'm a little aggressive sometimes.... It's one of those things I struggle with.

Bob

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#423627 - 01/29/13 05:51 PM Re: I'm incompetent [Re: Robert1000]
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Originally Posted By: Robert1000
Hey Jason, I appreciate your passion. That's a lot better than saying you're incompetent. Of course you're not incompetent. Thanks for rising to the bait. And if I offended you... well, I meant to get a rise out of you, but not to give offense. The same goes for you, Still, and Cant.

I know I'm a little aggressive sometimes.... It's one of those things I struggle with.

Bob

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