You do not know me. You do not know my character. You do not know my full story. Yet again, I am misunderstood and judged by a man.
Thank you for reinforcing something I live with everyday...being misunderstood by a gender I sincerely only want to be closer to and with.
Elissa, I'm sorry you feel this way, but I also believe that this is exactly why this board is specific about being for male survivors and their supporters only. You feel misunderstood and judged by men. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I think you have just experienced a small piece of what men experience in almost every place they turn to for help. We are judged every day - most rape resources consider men to be perpetrators by default. If you can convince them that you are a victim, not a perp, you are treated like a freak of nature - "look ladies, a MALE victim! Wow!". If we identify as straight, we are told to accept ourselves and come out of the closet. Cause CSA makes you gay, right? We are warned not to have children, because we will abuse them. There have been stories on here about men being forced to attend perpetrator support groups before they are allowed into the victim support groups. Imagine doing that to a woman who had been raped!
And when we fight against the stigmas, it a rare to get a better response than sympathetic "I'm sorry, it's unfair, but you have to accept these facts".
There is a reason why male victims keep quiet - we are not welcome anywhere. I don't personally have a problem with the idea that a female could come on here, as long as she respects the rules and not post in the "male survivors only" forums, as you indicated that you would. I can, however, understand that many men will feel that a female survivor posting here will dilute one of very few places where men are safe, and that if it becomes something that is generally accepted, this will turn into yet another place where men will have to fight for recognition among a choir of angry, female voices.