I think it is important you feel safe, rejection, spying and what looks like stalking will not allow you to heal. It will only remind you of the abuse--being violated, used and abused--you need support--people who need to spy and take control of someone's life is lacking a conscience, compassion and the ability to love. They are looking for love--life plays some twist and turns on how minds grow--was love lacking in your father's life--abandonment, being placed behind others--or whatever.
You need to space yourself from the situation so you can heal.
I wish you the best.