Straight, married, 3 adult kids, but with history of SSA and sexual dysfunction and confusion - for predictable and understandable reasons! i am sure that the dysfunction and SSA came from the CSA. there is a very clear and strong and obvious connection.

Lee

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CSA Age 7 to 14, all by older boys. Regular and frequent and "all."
Sexuality = none

Like Gary, I knew I was gay before the abuse started. I really don't think that abuse turns men gay. Maybe it can cause confusion, but I think you just know if you're gay (or bi) or not. I'm sure there are statistics and studys out there that can corroborate with this.

Well...it DID for me in that I was ravenously homosexually oriented as a kid. It got some strange flow of hormones et. al. going so that I was a self-declared sex addict by age 10 (the perps fully agreed). But once they were done with me, who knows...who cares!

My last trip to the PsychMD and GP MD claim that the traumatic brain development is still unknown in extent with kids, but the last scan showed abby normal stuff. They point to that as why I did not hit puberty till 15.5 years old, but was having orgasms from age 10 - on.

So if all that crap can happen from trauma and sexual exposure, why not effect orientation?

EDIT: BTW...I Still HATE all of this...with a passion!!
Find myself saying "how dare they!!!!" about 100 times a day.

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Heterosexual myself.

I wonder if more homosexuality or bisexuality men are able to admit the abuse compared to heterosexual men.

Dunno?

I'm primarily straight but think about guys a lot - especially if I haven't gotten laid in a while. I figured I must be bi, until I came here and learned about SSA. Confusing and unanswerable, no wayto know if I was born this way or the abuse caused it. I try not to dwell on it too much since it's part of me regardless.

I think Blacken has a point here, but one other thing occurs to me.

Because recovering survivers of csa have! to be honest about their attractions and sexual feelings, while it is likely untrue that a man who experienced csa by a male is "made gay" or whatever, it is! probably true that a man who happens to be buy or homosexual is much more honest about it if they're recovering from any sort of csa simply because that is the nature of the beast.

One lady (actually a family friend), was married for 11 years before admitting both to herself and to everyone else that she was homosexual, indeed part of the reason the mariage broke down was her catagorical refusal to have children.

She said she always assumed that there was something wrong with her being attracted to other women, and went through the full mariage thing with a fellow because it was expected. had she considdered the point with a little more clarity, as in fact she did later, she'd have realized that she was homosexuall.

It is certainly true I've noticed a lot more guys on this board being far more open about their preferences than would be usual anywhere else, so I wonder if that is a factor.

Myself, I often actually wish I was attracted to men, since my genophobia and problems with touch are not half as crytical with other guys as with women (a result of being victimized by girls), but I'm genuinely not.

I'm straight.

I'm among those who believe that if you look at the profile of the kind of boy predators go after (loner, insecure, socially awkward, etc), you'll find that a disproportionate number of gay boys fit that profile. The unseen victims of homophobia...