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#422051 - 01/14/13 08:08 AM I'm really starting to hate the people around me
Clockwise Offline


Registered: 03/03/09
Posts: 302
Loc: Pennsylvania
I had about 5 paragraphs typed out but I erased it all. I just want to ask simply, what do you guys do when you're stuck around people you hate? How do you deal with everyday when you can't stand anyone? I am increasing starting to hate all people...
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#422059 - 01/14/13 09:31 AM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
SmartShadow Offline


Registered: 11/27/12
Posts: 135
Loc: Washington State
Hay clockwise,
That's a hard place to be.
I think when this has happened in my life, I am tired and have unresolved pain conected with other people that I can't bring to rest. It just keeps building up like a fead back loop. Too many unresolved negative feelings.
Hang in there,

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#422071 - 01/14/13 02:14 PM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
LazyPirate Offline


Registered: 01/03/13
Posts: 106
Loc: Ontario
I can stand most people, but certain ones have a way of getting under my skin on an almost daily basis. I can't help but get crabby at them. If I had my druthers, I would never see any of them again. I would become a hermit... I do it sooooooo well, when I have the opportunity. As for what to do to deal on a daily basis: I go outside, get a coffee, have a cigarette, eat an orange... Or do all of the above!
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#422117 - 01/15/13 04:20 AM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
Clockwise Offline


Registered: 03/03/09
Posts: 302
Loc: Pennsylvania
I don't know. People easily annoy me but I rarely ever show it. I just hold it all in and try to go about my day as best I can. I'm thinking about renting a hotel one of these weekends just so I can be by myself.
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#422153 - 01/15/13 11:50 AM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
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Registered: 06/27/12
Posts: 336
I get like this sometimes. I do a few things. Sometimes I express myself. I find that I often get angry because I'm resentful because I'm not honest about how I feel or what I need. Other times, I think I'm angry for internal reasons, and I try to think of what fear or sadness is underneath my anger, although more often I feel "boredom" as a coverup feeling for fear or sadness, now that I think of it. The other thing I do is exercise. It just burns off the tension that I otherwise build up to insane levels. Go and run yourself hard. You'll feel better. Good luck. Bob

I have to say, I smiled when I read this post, because I sometimes feel this way, especially at work, but I don't always admit it. I like the way you expressed yourself so directly.

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#422190 - 01/15/13 08:46 PM * [Re: Clockwise]
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#422313 - 01/16/13 10:35 PM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1536
Loc: New England
I've made it a point to try to have jobs where I work more or less alone. No other peoples crap to deal with. No drama. Just peace and quiet.

Jude
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#422321 - 01/16/13 11:07 PM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Jude]
Jacob S Offline
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Registered: 01/01/13
Posts: 594
Originally Posted By: Jude
I've made it a point to try to have jobs where I work more or less alone. No other peoples crap to deal with. No drama. Just peace and quiet.

Jude


would you mind sharing some examples of those jobs? I have a hard time thinking of any.
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#422382 - 01/17/13 01:26 PM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
cosmos Offline


Registered: 11/12/12
Posts: 184
Loc: Puget Sound
Any job where your office is your vehicle, where you fly places, drive places, and meet new people every day. Something like sales or tech type jobs, hell a postman or UPS driver have really lonely jobs. Companies still pay a premium for those who are willing to sacrifice it all to be in the “field” 24/7/365, say 25% more than a similar desk job. Anything to not have to deal with “office politics”, wouldn’t know how to handle it anymore myself.

Cee
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#422403 - 01/17/13 04:36 PM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
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Registered: 01/03/13
Posts: 106
Loc: Ontario
Superintendent in a condo building is a good job for being alone. I see lots of people, but it's usually just a quick hello & then they're gone. I can hide away in the boiler room, or go relax up on the roof... Not a bad gig for someone who dislikes human interaction.
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#422419 - 01/17/13 06:05 PM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
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Registered: 07/13/12
Posts: 901
Loc: Florida
I agree with Jude, cosmos and LP. And I'm glad you brought up the subject CW because, as traveler (Lee) would tell you, it's been on my mind a lot lately.

I haven't worked for a traditional employer in...decades. Freelance (photographer, print advertising graphics). I don't have to deal with petty office politics and everyone's (obvious to me) hangups. You know, you have the pushy types, the weasels, the wimps, etc. I'd rather just concentrate on doing what I do well.

And I have the option of telling the worst of 'em to knock it off...without fear of retribution. I can always walk.

No daily commute, except to meet a client to head to a shoot. My hours are my own to utilize as best I see fit. Perhaps I have to srcap a little more than your average 9-5 worker, but I love what I do and I'm fully responsible for what I take in.


On personal relationships, well, I give people a chance and dump 'em if the behavior doesn't change. That's often a tough one, but keeping my mind quiet is more important to me. Had a friend of ten years who got involved with a crack addict, a completely codep relationship. I got sick of listening to the whining about the latest drama (almost two years of it) while my friend would blow me off on basic "friend" things. I ended up blowing HIM off. As far as I know he's still clueless or doesn't care.

Frankly, too, I've done that with dysfunctional family members. I make my case and if the behavior doesn't change they're history. I don't care, nor do I care what they think.

The bonus is that my "good energy" - don't mean to go New Agey - is reserved for everyone else, even casual acquaintences.

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#422623 - 01/19/13 08:18 AM Re: I'm really starting to hate the people around me [Re: Clockwise]
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Registered: 03/03/09
Posts: 302
Loc: Pennsylvania
Maybe I'm truly antisocial. I'm tired of the immature brats that I'm forced to be around. I'm sick of my roommate and his underage friends going out and getting drunk and stumbling through the door at night. I'm sick of my roommate and his stupid Gundam figurines and how he seems to find a new person everyday who's also into building them so on any given day our room is invaded by one or more people talking about those fucking things or playing video games until ten or eleven at night.

I went out in town today by myself (like I usually do on the weekends) and had an awesome time. I visited this massive park that has a zoo and a bunch of museums and shrines, I spent a good five hours there and still didn't get through all of it. I enjoyed myself but all the while I couldn't help but feel alone. Why can't I find someone like me? Sometimes I hate myself so if I found someone like me would I hate them too? Fuck my life.
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