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#421933 - 01/12/13 05:19 PM Hey
mrsark Offline

Registered: 01/12/13
Posts: 3
Loc: Wellington
Hi Everyone hows it going? My name is N and I am a survivor of sexual abuse.

I have just ended a two year relationship and my behaviour and actions in the relationship have made me start looking at what happened to me when I was younger.

I never wanted to have a victim mentality to let my wounds affect me but unfortunately I think it is, I don't recognise the face starring back at me from the mirror at the moment.

I saw a lot of anger from other victims and I guess I have moved passed the anger of what happened and wasn't sure if their company was where I was meant to be. I am not angry at what happened at the man that did this to me, I am just confused. I want to know what impact it is having on me know and how I can 'fix' myself.

I am hoping that by engaging on here I will meet some people I can talk with and with the anonymity finally be honest with people.

I am going to a support group but it is all older men and I am keen to find some guys my own age who I can relate to about this.

I hope that as others help me on my journey I may be able to offer my hand and words to someone else.


#421934 - 01/12/13 05:24 PM Re: Hey [Re: mrsark]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 2362
Welcome N. I am older and I think no matter our age we all have many of the same feelings and issues. I am happy you are here at a young age--because it is important to face the abuse and be able to move forward with your life. For us starting the healing in our 40's/50's we have lost part of our lives. But we seek like you, a brighter and happy future. Good luck

#421943 - 01/12/13 09:27 PM Re: Hey [Re: mrsark]
mrsark Offline

Registered: 01/12/13
Posts: 3
Loc: Wellington
I don't doubt that, I am more looking to connect with younger guys who are going through stuff at the same point in life, don't know if that makes sense. I have a lot of really supportive older guys at the group I have started going to.


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