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#421892 - 01/12/13 01:15 AM Re: Monday: Private vindication [Re: SoccerStar]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3816
Loc: somewhere in Africa
hey, Matt!

i'm glad it went so well for you. i think you needed that and it will be a good milestone.

about your friend - chances are, it was just what he needed too. it can't have been easy - most likely he's never talked about it out loud in a group of regular guys - but sounds like you were all supportive and will be there for him when he needs it. this could very well be a very healing moment for him, too.

A man talking sense to himself is no madder than a man talking nonsense to not himself.
Or just as mad.
So there you are.
Stark raving sane.
- Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz & Guildenstern are Dead

#421910 - 01/12/13 08:14 AM Re: Monday: Private vindication [Re: SoccerStar]
Farmer Boy Offline

Registered: 08/23/12
Posts: 442
Loc: Australia

So So So relieved that you are still 'one of the boys'. I hope this helps you realise that the abuse doesn't define who you are. You are still a great bloke and your friends still think you are cool.

I agree eith traveler about the other guy. We all know how tough getting it out can be - but I think it had to be healing for him .... or at least the start of healing.

More than meets the eye!

#421926 - 01/12/13 03:13 PM Re: Monday: Private vindication [Re: SoccerStar]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 2434

That is wonderful feedback. I am glad you received the compassion you deserved. I did something accidentally and I thought stupid--I posted to the One Heart--the Penn State Facebook page a bit of what I was going through. I thought it was a private posting-but it wasn't. When I got the first message from a friend--I was dumbfounded and scared. It was very supportive. But out of fear I did not check my facebook page for several days. The messages had piled and I dreaded when I opened them--like you they were so supportive, compassionate and understanding. It seems those you know and not those that think they know everything (and I have few who think they know everything about CSA--but they don't) can open their hearts to the pain we suffered.

I hope it helps you and the triggers become less and life more enjoyable. I am waiting for that day. Good luck and thank you for sharing.


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