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#420848 - 01/03/13 04:32 PM 2 years and ...
Gretta Offline

Registered: 09/17/11
Posts: 239
And he is still lying to me. I have been supportive, understanding and the only person there for him. His family sucks. Why? He's going to lose it all. Shouldn't that matter?

Edited by Gretta (01/03/13 09:13 PM)

#420930 - 01/04/13 05:59 AM Re: 2 years and ... [Re: Gretta]
whome Offline

Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1736
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
Sorry Gretta.

I can offer you sympathy and that's it, after two years I have failed to fix my marriage, the one thing I really wanted to fix.

Well its over and it kills me that I failed. I suppose the leason is that no person is a project.

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#422339 - 01/17/13 03:27 AM Re: 2 years and ... [Re: Gretta]
confusion4life Offline

Registered: 02/12/12
Posts: 109
Loc: Italy
gretta, he cant trust. he is still a liar because he cant just trust. its a very very hard fight, but you are probably the only one who can win this with him, so yes, it does matter.

wish you tons of strenth. and just remember, its got nothing to do with you, it was them who made him like that, totally independent from you. he didnt really have a chance. maybe he has one now. i hope for you he uses it.

everything is always okay in the end, if it's not, then it's not the end

#422374 - 01/17/13 11:59 AM Re: 2 years and ... [Re: Gretta]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 2426

I am sorry--you have been there and for him, the healing is not moving forward. He had your support, which shows your true character as a compassionate and loving wife. How many of us here, envy your husband to have this support. Now it is up to him. For me, healing is what I want and I want to find the love and support of a woman who can open her heart and mind. I do not want to run from the past and hide it. One day I hope your husband can embrace the past, the hurt of the abuse and what it has done to who he is.

You seem to have support and strength and I hope it takes you through your difficult times.



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