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#419007 - 12/13/12 11:05 AM Today's my 41st Birthday
Magellan Offline

Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1439
Loc: California
Was dreading this day coming. The holidays and my birthday get harder each year.

When I was young, I knew I would have a family, kids to raise, and a loving partner.

none of these have come to pass. As a matter of fact, as the years have worn on, I've gotten lonelier. The energy and stamina of my youth gone.

I woke up feeling okay, and had my first few thoughts and then became depressed.

1 program friend will be taking me out to dinner tonight. But I haven't had a birthday party in 11 years now. The last birthday party I had was when I turned 30.


It's just another day, but man... being in my 40's has really forced me to face my mortality.


#419008 - 12/13/12 11:14 AM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
Obi Online   content

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1442
Loc: kansas
In the same boat as you. I'll be 42 next month. No spouse, no kids of my own. No relationship either. You're definitely not alone in this area.
live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

#419020 - 12/13/12 01:47 PM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
Happy Birthday Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1600
Loc: New England

You are a hero to us here at MS. Don't let yourself forget what you have accomplished in your life, or give up on what is yet to come. Happy Birthday!

Seems I've got to have a change of scene
Every night I have the strangest dreams
Imprisoned by the way it could have been
Left here on my own or so it seems
I've got to leave before I start to scream
Joe Cocker

#419025 - 12/13/12 02:07 PM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
Farmer Boy Offline

Registered: 08/23/12
Posts: 442
Loc: Australia
Hey D

It's my birthday too (36).
Doesn't it suck having your birthday so close to christmas. What is it about birthdays that is so hard?

Getting older forces everyone to 'take stock' of their lives and we all have 'if only's' and 'what if's'. My youthfulness has always been so important to me (and the world). It is hard to come to terms with losing it.


It's just another day, but man... being in my mid 30's has really forced me to face my mortality.

Anyway...Happy Birthday!!!! Brother - I feel your pain.


PS I hope dinner goes well smile
More than meets the eye!

#419027 - 12/13/12 02:28 PM * [Re: Magellan]
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Registered: 03/25/12
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 01:19 PM)

#419039 - 12/13/12 04:59 PM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
Robert1000 Offline

Registered: 06/27/12
Posts: 336
Hey Magellan,

Happy birthday, my friend. You're 41 years young! I'm almost 41 myself... well, a few months away anyway. Here's to you. Here's to growing older, yes, but also a little wiser.


#419046 - 12/13/12 06:50 PM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3576
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Magellan / D -

sometimes "happy birthday" seems inadequate.
i do want to wish you more than just a happy day.
i want to tell you that you are significant to me - and i am sure - to many other guys here.
some of your posts have spoken to me in important and profound ways.
remember what an outpouring of concern and encouragement was forthcoming when you went through a difficult time recently.
even though we can't be there with you, give tangible gifts, share a cake, or sing off-key and off rhythm, we are here for you.
i personally am glad that you are still around - and i urge you to keep a spark of hope for the future - borrow one from someone here if you lose yours!

with affection, respect and gratitude,
and expectation for a better year ahead...
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho

#419112 - 12/14/12 08:31 AM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
peroperic2009 Offline

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3632
Loc: South-East Europe
Happy birthday D wink
I hope you have had some nice diner!

My story

#419119 - 12/14/12 11:24 AM Re: Today's my 41st Birthday [Re: Magellan]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1439
Loc: California
Thanks you guys.


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