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#417937 - 12/02/12 02:21 PM Boiling Anger
RunningOnEmpty Offline

Registered: 10/07/12
Posts: 91
Loc: georgia

Edited by RunningOnEmpty (01/01/13 07:03 PM)

#417955 - 12/02/12 05:24 PM Re: Boiling Anger [Re: RunningOnEmpty]
shortieg Offline

Registered: 07/24/12
Posts: 58
AMEN. You called my life exactly. I'm so sorry your going through this suck hole too frown

#417957 - 12/02/12 05:31 PM Re: Boiling Anger [Re: RunningOnEmpty]
Candu Offline

Registered: 06/30/12
Posts: 312
Loc: Canada
I would have included the word pain. But I see sadness as being close to pain. And yes it is like mourning a loss. (yesterday was the funeral for one of my aunts) The problem is that unlike a death there is no closure. It just keeps going on.

#417981 - 12/02/12 10:44 PM Re: Boiling Anger [Re: RunningOnEmpty]
angiec Offline

Registered: 10/28/12
Posts: 21

Edited by angiec (12/05/12 02:29 PM)

#417983 - 12/02/12 11:03 PM Re: Boiling Anger [Re: RunningOnEmpty]
genedebs Offline

Registered: 11/09/12
Posts: 303
Loc: MO
Something has died. It is called soul murder and that is what
your abuser did to you. It may be that there were others complicit, your parent who invited him into your life, the ones who wouldn't believe or dicounted it.

The anger helps me keep the sadness away. I have been crazy angry for 50 years, but I don't have to act on it. But, when I stop the anger, or I can't hold onto it, the saddness always comes, and then my eyes leak, I say that because I don't want to admit I cry. I always hear my father say if youi don't stop crying I will give something to cry about... and he did.

The fact is that over time the RAGE becomes anger and does not make adrenalin, or anxiety, or hate, but if you hold on it will chase the saddness away. Unfortunately if you do it well enough long enough you can feel no joy, not even satisfaction, much less the love of your children or grandchildren. Hell of a bargain.

I hope you get the help you need before you are too closed down.

Been there done that and am struggling to recover from the losses I caused myself.

#418000 - 12/03/12 02:05 AM Re: Boiling Anger [Re: RunningOnEmpty]
shortieg Offline

Registered: 07/24/12
Posts: 58
I seriously hope Monday brings a better day! O how I wish Monday brings a better day.


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