Will - we have our decorations all up. i was sweating in 90-degree heat while stringing lights on our balcony. we can see the tops of palm trees from our 2nd-floor flat. in a setting like this - you gotta think "Bethlehem" rather than "North Pole"!
Gary - go for it! whatyever you do, just make it different from what was in the past. one year we went to a movie on Christmas day. this year we will go to the beach. breaking the old patterns and associations is good. even if it means sleeping in and doing nothing - as long as you are doing it on purpose - not because you feel neglected or whatever. just be kind to yourself.
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"