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#417655 - 11/29/12 05:27 PM
Effects of Sexual Abuse
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Greeter
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Registered: 12/15/09
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Loc: Minnesota
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I've been thinking about discussing this topic at a general meeting for our local Men's Center: "Effects of Sexual Abuse"
What would you share as the top lasting effects of your abuse experience?
I'd say for me this includes:
1) addiction (alcohol/sex)
2) shut down emotions
3) lack of trust
4) body image issues/confused sexuality
I continue to heal and recover from these effects and more. I've found a lot of healing and support over the years, and feel like I have/we have only just begun making inroads into addressing this issue in the world.
Let me know your thoughts.
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#417656 - 11/29/12 05:31 PM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 02/07/06
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good start -
i say YES to all the above.
i would add -
damage to self-esteem - distinct from body image and sexual identity and orientation issues.
lee
Edited by traveler (11/29/12 05:31 PM)
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#417658 - 11/29/12 05:48 PM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Greeter
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Number one on my list is the confusion of sexual identity which in turn leads to a refusal to accept oneself and ultimately shame and isolation. It all starts with the lost sense of that most intimate of personal identities.
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#417671 - 11/29/12 07:09 PM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1140
Loc: California
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Self loathing.
"Anger at life"
"Anger at the universe"
"Angry for being born"
"Feeling like a victim for simply being born"
I've had all of these.
I don't know why all that is in quotes. Oh well.
Edited by Magellan (11/29/12 07:31 PM)
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#417679 - 11/29/12 08:18 PM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 10/30/12
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Loc: SE USA
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#417704 - 11/29/12 11:43 PM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 309
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I can repeat some of the answers, and add a few...
Anger/self loathing - yup, me too.
Period of sexual confusion - yup, me too. (fortunately not nearly as bad as what some of the other guys here are struggling with)
Addiction - yes.
Fear of intimacy
Inability to trust
Need to always be in control
Depression (multiple suicide attempts)
Guilt, shame, feeling like I don't deserve to be happy.
Self-injury
And of course, my official diagnosis - PTSD, BPD, Depersonalisation disorder, Major depression.
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#417715 - 11/30/12 01:46 AM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 08/08/12
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Loc: New England
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You guys have covered it all. Sign me up for the next train to the funny farm.
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#417722 - 11/30/12 03:54 AM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1716
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
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Hi There MB
Nice to see you back you've been away for a while.
I am glad that you are still in the process, and wish you God Speed in your healing.
I would like to add
"Rage"
"Homophobia"
"Suicidal"
Martin
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#417724 - 11/30/12 05:26 AM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 11/25/07
Posts: 1623
Loc: durham, north england
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Hi buck.
Interesting question, I'll add some of mine.
A sense of worthlessness and hyper self cryticism that affects anything I do.
Recurrent bouts of depression even when there is little or no reason.
A struggle with becoming addicted to isolation.
Discomfort with any sort of physical contact.
Genophobia so profound it makes any sort of relationship an impossibility..
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#417779 - 11/30/12 02:42 PM
Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse
[Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 03/07/11
Posts: 292
Loc: west coast
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Great thread MB
The inability to be me. Trust or accept who I was or even know who I was. The running away from my true self as I am in the present.
All the other stuff the you have all described followed as the result of the trying to bury any real feelings.
hugz grant
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